Pah!

[Goodsoulette]

This should probably be in family or relationships or something but seeing as it is more of a rant, I figured it could go here.

My ex left for America a week ago to meet a girl he had started chatting to on facebook. They are getting married on Friday.

Most of me is thrilled that he is leaving for good but there's another part of me that is furious. How can he leave the kids like that? He was supposedly cut up the whole time he lived in Birmingham because he couldn't see them so often. I know that I will never see another penny out of him again.

He's told me how great his wife to be and if you knew our history you will totally understand that I am not jealous of this one little bit. He's semi informed me that she would treat them as her own on visits and I just can't help but get angered by this. Why would I let my kids go stay with someone who lives the other side of the pond, who he is physically known for just a week! Especially considering he bullied me sooo much I couldn't even consider calling anyone I have dated in last two years a boyfriend, for feeling his wrath!

How could he emigrate if he really loves the boys?

[4getmenot]

thats so sad a father has done that. It seems he is just to caught up in himself and his life at the moment he just hasnt thought about what should be the most imprtants things in his life. x

[helliebobs]

Ahh goodsy this is so sad and I feel so sorry for your 2 wee lads, there's not a lot I can say that will give you any solutions or make things easier. Be strong girlie, at least they still have you and you will always be their rock, no matter how many times dad lets them down.

[Satan&Co]

Admit it - you couldn't give a fig about your kids feelings , nor your ex's - you just care that you can't tap him for more money.

"I know that I will never see another penny out of him again. "

[sense4all]

You must be torn between mourning the boys loss of the potential relationship with their father, and doing the victory dance that he is out of your life for a while. Who knows what is around the corner for you all, keep positive and open to new possibilties and you will all be fine! The boys have you - what more do they need ? and you've got US - ok so the boys got the better deal .. lol. Have a big hug Goody. Love Sense.X.

[4getmenot]

you dont need to hate him. Maybe his children will when they find out he just left them

[helliebobs]

I agree 4get and that's how I view my son's relationship with his father - soon he will be old enough to make his own mind up.

[4getmenot]

exactly children should come before anything else, unless the other partner wont let you see them. but then you should fight for access

[Goodsoulette]

satan & co, if I didn't care about my kids feelings then I wouldn't have let him have contact wit the kids over the last couple of years. I have seen 40 quid out of him in that time, thats it!!!!

He beat me black and blue, time and time again for years. He did however always treat the kids like the precious gifts they are? Everyone around me said that I shouldn't endure his presence ever again but I did FOR MY CHILDREN!!!! I was informed he would kill any man who got close to me as he wouldn;t have his kids bought up by another man, so forgive me for feeling a little aggrieved when he bails on them and thinks 40 quid is adequate for near on two years maintenance.

[4getmenot]

hellie thats just it I hate parents that use the child as some piece in a game.

[4getmenot]

goodsoul you must be so strong to still let a man like that near the children

[Goodsoulette]

I don't hate him 4get, my normal feelings towards him are that he is a prat and when people want to talk to me about the new unbelievably tw@ttish things he have done,I just donlt want to know and feel a little ashamed that I was with him for soo long.

[4getmenot]

dont feel ashamed, dont even think about it. Its in the past and we all do silly things for love

[helliebobs]

Having joined the singles mum club myself last year I actually find Goodsy really inspirational and I haven't gone through half the **** she has, no end of respect for you here Goodsy, you know how I feel :)