depression

[paulys]

hi i had depression last year for 6-10 minths i didnt no at the time and i was horrible to my gorlfriend thoughtout, i didnt want her to touch me in anyway kissing her was a no go i didnt have a clue at the time i was doing this and looking back no i understand i was an idiot. anyway shes forgiven/understands what happened.
but now she says she no longer in love with me she loves me unconditional and have a great time together never argue do anything for one another just she is not attraced to me and feels she not in love with me, we've been together for 6 years but not had sex for a year now.
after i had worked out i had depression and realised how awful i had been towards my girlfriend i went to the next extreme with her over powering, controlling i was smoothering her, this lead to her nearly ahving an affair and moving out for two months but since then we have been working really hard to sort things out, its been 6 montsh since she movved back in.
heres the thing she sits on the sofa all day on her days off just crying because of the way she feels about cuz she wants to be in love with me but isnt. she sleeps an awful lot and just doesnt enjoy anything because shes so ups et tahtw e cant work this out...... weird thing is this how i felt last year but she dosnt agree that she no has depression. she has PCOS which i understand can sometimes casue depress or maybe its because i was such an idoit i've made her have depression.
what do you think what can i do i don't want to lose her shes my world my life everything i love her so much please help.

[craft1948]

Your gender shows as female, is this correct?

[DEN53]

Ditto

[boxtops]

Did you get medical treatment for your own depression, so that you could talk to your girlfiend about getting some help herself? I know how hard it is to live with depression (and so do you) - she needs help, you need to get her to see her GP.

[mike11111]

New poster. Troll alert.

[jaydah]

blimey...dont let her read this as she will be more depressed, you could be too :(

http://hcd2.bupa.co.u...sheets/html/pcos.html

[paulys]

Sorry some of you cant understand my last post...my spelling is awfull!!
Basically I had depression and was distanst and unloving towards my girlfriend and this led to her feeling unloved, I didnt get meds but changed my diet exercise and my way of thinking.
I was ill with it for about 6months before I realised then when I realised how I was being with her i went the other way i didnt let her out of my site i was totally posessive. This pushed her away even more and made her seek attention else where and move out for two months.
the last four - five months have been brilliant apart from two things one no sex and two she cries so much because she loves me but isnt in love with me. she doesnt want to do anything on her days off and doesnt enjoy the things she used too.
it all sounds very similar to me, this is how i felt when i was depressed, she also has polycystic ovary syndrome- a side effect to this is depression.
Im worried because I don't want things to end especially if it could be depression..what do you guys think?
yes craft1948 i am female, and i hope i've explained it a bit clearer.