Sorry Charisma, I haven't been ignoring you, I just haven't been back on the site lately.
Just to let you know, on answering your questions, I'm speaking as a time-served bricklayer who hasn't actually worked on sites for 19 years now (change of career) although I have done lots of fiddley jobs for satisfied customers (friends) in that time.
When I served my apprenticeship, the minimum height for a DPC was 150mm, and I'm certain that this is still the case. Having said that, I really do not know whether you would be able to force the developer to relay the original patio after three years have passed.
As to your query about the gap, I certainly do not think that a gap of 30mm would make any difference, in fact I'm sure it would make the problem worse, especially if the patio sloped toward the house, allowing water to possibly drain to the foundations.
If the patio absolutely HAS TO BE higher than the minimum 150mm, I would recommend having a border of chippings 150mm wide next to the house wall and the patio sloping away. The chippings (supposedly) have the effect of preventing the raindrops from bouncing up above the DPC.
It is possible that you may never ever get a problem with rising damp, although when I'm doing a job for anyone I like to err on the cautious side and omit any potential problems.