Really do hope you pick up this answer as I was like you up till about 2 years ago. Someone suggested I went to an alternative therapist & she done something called EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). You might have seen Paul McKenna perform this on tele in the past, including on GMTV. Anyway, I really did not think for one moment it would help me as my fear was almost out of control but I had two sessions & my fear vanished. The technique involves "tapping" on accupressure points & verbally speaking about your fear. I used to be like a mad woman when a wasp or bee came indoors but now, although I wouldn't be too happy if one landed on me, if one comes indoors or if I'm in the garden & one comes passing by, I'm calm. really!!