Why do people think I should dishonour my wife's will?.

[Markpb]

My wife passed away in November and I have joined a social club since.
I am surprised the majority of the members are women and I have had one at my house in the day just for company.
I thought it was only fair to tell her my wifes half of the house was willed to our son and it would soon be in his name. As a result she slammed the door and left.
What I find hard to comprehend is how many of the members of the club have since said I should have destroyed the will and got the house put totally into my name or refused to sign the transfer form which would have prevented the half the house going into my son's name.
As it happens I could not have destroyed the will. As he works for a bank he gets free safe custody so both our wills are under his control.
Also this would have been highly dishonest and I did not want my wife's wishes re her part of the house to be dishonoured.
I am still a member till the end of the year and I will not be going back to that club but I still see members on the street.
My wife's part of the house has now gone into my son's name.

Mark

[boxtops]

This is one of many threads, mark, where nosey parkers decide what should happen to a loved one's bequests. It's absolutely nothing to do with them - if your wife wanted you and your son to share the property, so be it.

Take no notice of them - you've done what your wife wanted. Well done.

[brenda]

Why do you find it necessary to broadcast your affairs to people you are socialising with? Find that quite odd.

[B00]

I'm sure this question, or one very very similar has been asked before.

[Old_Geezer]

Good for you Mark, although it seems you'd have had little choice to do otherwise anyway.

[boxtops]

I must admit I thought it was odd to consider it "fair" to tell a lady visitor who owned the house - unless of course she was a gold-digger, and asked outright.

[Tilly2]

What strange people you have at that club. Is it full of widows who are looking for a nice husband with a house to leave them when he dies?
Find yourself a different club.

[starone]

Odd question altogether isn't it. First question first day, and a very delicate subject to air to strangers.

[joggerjayne]

It would not just have been "dishonouring" your late wife's wishes.

It would have been ... (what's the word?) ... err, fraud !

You were right to ignore these people.

[jno]

this sounds like altogether the wrong sort of social club. Is there one that just plays bridge and doesn't discuss testamentary affairs?

[ummmm]

B00, something similar has been asked more than a few times recently.

[sandyRoe]

If the will had been destroyed your son would have been robbed of his inheritance.

[daffy654]

I am having trouble believing that you would just tell a woman you are not having a relationship with that your house is willed to your son, I also can't see that any woman would walk out and slam the door when hearing it.

I can't understand why anyone would lie about such things, but I do think this whole story is made up.

[starone]

So do I daffy.

[Celticv11]

A social club is where like minded people congregate to share common interests, you dont belong in that one!

[Old_Geezer]

I suspect that's likely daffy, but I tend not to want to assume that when a thread appears as it may be genuine, and may help others later somehow. (Although unsure how.)

[Tilly2]

The [1]As a result she slammed the door and left[1] part seems rather odd. There must have been more to it than that.

[Tilly2]

My italics didn't work. Pressed 1 instead of i!

[ELVIS68]

"slammed the door and left"...did she walk through it?

Seriously, if this story is true there's got to be more to it than her leaving just because you don't own your house