What Does He See In Her

[queeniej]

He dated this girl in high school, they broke up because, she did not want to smoke weed with him and would not sleep with him within the first 3 dates, they were both 15 at the time. now they are both 24, he has a job bagging groceries, and she is a hairdresser, when she first got the job, she did not realize who he was, and he would constantly follow her around put his arm around her, even in a restaurant he would put his arms around her waist and rest his head on her shoulder, even then people would ask him if SHE is his girlfriend.. I know all this because a mutual friend works with him.
Before she realized who he was, he had one of his friends tell her to meet him by his car, and that is when he told her who he was., he told me that he even tried to make out with her then and there, but she would not make out with him.

I decided to confront him and he admitted to me that he has always loved her and he feels bad about the way the relationship ended and he still loves her. So I broke up with him and told him if he wants her he can have her, (if she wouldn't sleep with him in high school, what makes him so sure she will sleep with him now.

I feel very hurt because, now I hear that he is always putting heart balloons on her car, buying her coffee in the morning, and always giving her presents every time she turns around, he is always touching her, and he always puts his arms around her.

He refers to her to his friends as her soul mate, and he has a lot to make up for.

How do I get over this pain, we only dated for 1 month. She is nothing special to look at. She is all of 5'1,dark hair dark eyes. Not really fat, but curvy. I would love to confront her but I am afraid to.

Yes, I asked this before, but I did not get many answers and I need some advice to get over this he is all I think of, I would like him back, but he told me that he is not really in love with me like he is with her, he always loved her, but back then he listened to his friends instead of his heart.

[craft1948]

I don't know....................are you fat?

[ferlew]

OMG !!!!! Heart balloons !!!

[ChillDoubt]

So let me get this straight......he's known her for at least 9 years, yet you only dated him for a month and he's told you he's not in love with you?

Basically, unrequited love. Move on, find someone else cos it ain't gonna happen, IMHO.

[Mass_Hysteria]

Move on, forget him!

[Mamyalynne]

Stop trying and find a guy who is not besotted with someone else.

[quinie]

Did you have a different Username when you asked this before,queeniej?You just became a member 16 minutes ago. Just curious.

[Canary42]

You won't get him back (and goodness knows why you would want to - he sounds a real pain with stalking problems) so move on, find someone more worthy of your consideration.

[craft1948]

Surely they became a member about 14 hours ago..........

[askyourgran]

He is besotted with someone else, even after 9 years?......no matter what you do you won't be able to make him feel that way about you. At least he is honest with you, he could be a good friend, but nothing else. Leave them to it, it seems she doesn't feel the same way about him but he will have to realise that himself. Move on, don't waste your time, you could meet a lot more interesting guys instead of mooning about one who has the hots for someone else.

[elliemay1]

Sounds like a wind-up. So you want a boyfriend who smokes weed. Also there's more to a relationship than sleeping together. And you make the mistake of saying," She is nothing special to look at."

[Baldric]

///Yes, I asked this before,///

What name did you use then queeniej? it might help if we can tie up the two posts

[quinie]

Sorry,craft,had a senior moment there.The thread was posted 16 minutes after joining AB

[DJHawkes]

are you sure his job is really bagging groceries? He must be very well paid he sounds a real spendthrift. Are you upset that he isnlt spending his wage on you?

[boxtops]

He sounds very immature and an obsessive - I'm surprised the other girl hasn't reported him for harassment. You don't want him back. He's only got eyes for this girl.