Dil Wants To Choose Decor

[Cloverjo]

Just wondered what you good folks of AB think about this.

We will have to redecorate two bedrooms in our house because of damage by damp. One room is my son’s; he is in his late 20s and has had his own home for six years. He wouldn’t care how I decorated it, but he said his wife ‘wants some input’ in the decisions. I thought ‘Cheeky mare! It’s not her house.’ Or even her room. But I don’t want to fall out with my son.

What do you think? Should I consult her, or do what I damn well like with my own home?

[pixie374]

Do what you damn well like :-). If she gets invites over, she can take or leave it.

[Ken4155]

It is you who will have to live with it, Clover, not her. Tell her to 'do one'. I've been decorating for about the last 30 years and i've done an awful lot for our Asian cousins. I have a feeling many of them are being financially helped by their fathers who, in many cases, try to have an input suggesting traditional Asian style patterns. Most of my customers are young couples making a home for the first time and, on the whole, they resist their parent's ideas.

[Mamyalynne]

I'd tell her I'd be happy to take a look at her ideas but I will make the final decision.

[Ken4155]

The room is no longer his! It's a spare room in your house.

[Sqad]

Why did you tell either of them that you were going to decorate "his" room?"

[Sqad]

I agree with Ken...we must have cross posted.

[jno]

it doesn't look as though you'll be falling out with him if he doesn't care. Just suggest she have input into design decisions in her own house, whensoever she gets one.

[LadyCG]

Tell her she can choose the decor if she's happy to pay for the redecoration.

Damn cheek!!

[Cloverjo]

Thank you, all. Just what I was thinking, mostly. He does still have some of his things here, and we do still call it his room. But anyway, I don’t want her coming in with curtain swatches and test paints etc.

[Tilly2]

Just tell her quietly that you would rather choose your own decor as it is actually your house.

[Eleena]

Tell her that's a deal if you can have input in hers, unbelievable.

[Tilly2]

Actually, personally, I would want to keep the peace and I would listen to her suggestions and tactfully ignore them. :-)

[Eleena]

Give an inch take a mile Tilly? Pushy!

[Prudie]

I'm stunned, he moved out 6 years ago - I wouldn't even consider his wishes.

[Eleena]

Some take being 'nice' for a walkover Tilly.

[woofgang]

Do you know why she wants a say? It seems just odd to me.

[Hopkirk]

Tell him you have changed your mind and won't be redecorating it.

Leave it six months, then quietly do what you wanted.

[snags]

''I'm stunned, he moved out 6 years ago - I wouldn't even consider his wishes''

^ This.

[-SharonA-]

Agree with snags! Tell her to take a running jump!

[-Talbot-]

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Decorate it with a Batman & Robin theme.