Son Has Been Victim Of Domestic Assault

[Smowball]

My son has been attacked by an ex girlfriend - twice in one week. Once was when he was trying to break up with her. She launched herself at him and has gouged the skin out of his chest, arms and back with her nails, and given him a black eye. She also threw a sharp kitchen knife at him and smashed his prescription glasses up. He is smothered in deep scratches and cuts and bruises.
The second time was the next day and he was going for a walk with his friend in a local park when out of nowhere she appeared from behind a hedge and punched him straight in the mouth, splitting his lip. (I suspect she followed him)
Everyone has pleaded with him to go to the police but he refuses, as he is absolutely terrified she will turn the tables and cry rape or something. The staff where he is living have taken photographic evidence of all his injuries and they are really worried for his safety, as they are scared she could be carrying a knife next time, and I agree with them.
We just don’t know what to do. She can’t just get away with this - her family are known to be v unpleasant. She also has two children which is worrying.
Anybody have any words of advice/suggestions please as I’d be most grateful x

[Smowball]

Oh and he is 25 btw

[Mamyalynne]

He must report it.

[naomi24]

If he refuses to go to the police I can’t imagine what advice you expect anyone here to give. Short of moving a long way away from her and keeping his whereabouts secret I can’t think of anything else he can do.

[Lie-in King]

She needs to be reported to the police - he should take the photo evidence (a copy of) and take advice.

[Smowball]

I don’t really know what I expect anyone to say, just anything that might change his mind about reporting it.

[naomi24]

Potential future victims?

[marval]

That is awful, he really should report her.

[gness]

Smo......it may not change his mind but he needs to consider that she may turn on his family if she’s so determined to harm him in some way.....x

[ladybirder]

There is only one answer to this and you know what it is and why Smow. Tell him if he won't go you will. Oh and then tell him to take his spec prescription to Asda for replacement specs at the cheapest price but not cheap specs.
I knew this post was from you as soon as I saw the headline; you do have some trouble:-(

[naomi24]

She certainly does, LB.

[Smowball]

LB it never rains but it pours lately.....
Ok I think I’m going to also tell him that what if she turns on her children??
And I didn’t know that about the glasses - thanks x

[TonyV]

He needs to report the attack to police, even if he dosnt want to name her, at least there will be an official record if it happens again.

[Smowball]

I suspect deep down part of this is male pride - having to say a woman has attacked him.

[TonyV]

Plus if he or you need a hospital report or discharge letter if you dont already have one.

[TonyV]

Smow many men have been murdered by their wives with a claw hammer.

[BAKERS DOZEN]

My daughter and her boyfriend had been going out for seven years but there was a female who lived not far from him who made it known that she fancied him and stalked him and made herself a general nuisance. She had two children already to different fathers and we discovered later she was pregnant again. One day daughter was out walking with him when they met her and had a go again screaming at him asking him why he would not go out with her. She was under the influence of cannabis at the time. Boyfriend just looked her up and down then looked at my daughter and said "What would I want with mince when I've got steak at home". They walked past her and left her screaming at them both. Later that night when our daughter was safe at home, thank goodness, there was a knock at his door and when he opened it he was attacked by two lads. One had a hammer and one had a knife. They battered and stabbed him and killed him. They were as high as kites on cannabis and had been sent to "sort him out" by this monster. They were caught within hours because they were stupid and she was charged along with them but because she had small children, was pregnant again and she offered to give evidence against them she got off scot free. When it got to Crown Court they could not prove which one had the knife and which had the hammer and he had died as a result of being stabbed many times - the fatal blow being to his neck. Believe it or not but one got 4 yrs and one got 18 months as as they had been on remand for 7 months were back out on the streets in no time. If she is a disfunctional as you say then beware, not just of her but her friends and family as well. Tell him to report it as soon as possible please.

[ummmm]

He should take pride in not hitting her back.

I wouldn't bring the children into it though unless he's witnessed her being violent with them.

[Smowball]

Dear god Bakers Dozen - that’s horrific!
Ok I’m going to ring him now and try again.....

[david small]

Smow, my son was bullied and beaten by his then partner. He was thirty then, and when he held her at bay to stop her clawing him she called the police and said he assaulted her. They arrested him. In custody for six hours they saw the extent of his injuries, let him go and said we’ll be in touch, they weren’t. His ex was a nut job with previous history, same thing with three ex’s. He should report it to the police for the recording.
He needn’t press charges. Also a restraining order could be procured against her. My son eventually moved on from the disturbed girlfriend, I hope yours does to.

[gness]

My god, Bakers.... that is shocking. Your blood must run cold when you think how much worse it could have been too. That poor lad.