My Niece And Her Former Husband Have Both Been Recommending That I Move To A Sheltered Dwelling.

[sandyRoe]

Any thoughts?

[wolf63]

No, no and no.

[New Judge]

Tell them to mind theior own business.

[wolf63]

Unless you really want to and it was your idea.  Downsize to a flat if your house is too big for you, but value your freedom and independence.

[gingejbee]

Sheltered dwelling?

What, like a tent?

They're after your house, sandy!

[elliemay1]

Only do what you want to do, sandy

[naomi24]

Why?  You're capable of looking after yourself, aren't you?

[bednobs]

didnt they previously want you to movein?

[Countrylover]

I agree with all who have answered.  Do what you want to do. However you can buy a home that is sheltered if you feel the need.

Did your niece bring up the subject or had you mentioned it first and did you you ask her advice.  What has her ex husband got to do with it.

 

 

  

[ToraToraTora]

you should fight for your freedom.

[hellywelly4]

I moved into a retirement bungalow 10 years and then during covid moved to a flat in a retirement block 3 years ago to be near to my daughter. I've never regretted it - I'm still independent and I own the flat so my money is all mine. Why do people think you would lose your independence? What you do lose is all the worry connected to property maintenance, fences falling down, replacing windows - I could go on. I was 73 when I first moved. You do need somewhere that has a manager though. In the meantime get a Lifeline for if you fall or become ill. 

[Tilly2]

Is your house too big for you to cope with, Sandy?

Maybe downsizing to something smaller and more managable, where help is at hand, might be more suitable for you. Are you/they thinking of retirement apartments with lots of facilities and amenities?

Watch out for hidden costs such as maintenance fees, care fees etc.

Think long and hard before giving up your current home but if you need help, and can afford it, move to a swankey, sheltered apartment.

[DTCwordfan]

Up to you, not them. If you are needing support there are those places where you can buy a flat with two bedrooms usually and come and go as you wish. There's a restaurant on site, laundry and maintenance plu bocials...and also nursing support. As you become more decrepit, the more you can turn to using them. My Aunt has lived in a lovely place overlooking the river and golf course nearby for some ten years now and has enjoyed it, though hers isn't cheap but she can afford it - and the food and wine list are very good!

[naomi24]

The question is still why?

[sandyRoe]

My niece's ex works in a housing authority and he might be able to facilate a move.

I've told what family I have, 2 nieces and one of their daughters, that they'll inherit my house.

Perhaps they're tired of waiting.

[Countrylover]

Don't sell your house and then rent.  I presume it's renting that the ex husband is offering to arrange.  I would do what HellyWelly has done if you really want a smaller place.

[Countrylover]

And then I'd make sure that I spend the residue!!  

But homes are quite expensive on those purpose built developments and there is ground rent to pay as well.

[Canary42]

It's something I'm seriously thinking about, but buying, not renting (although ground rent and maintenance are ongoing costs). Mainly for peace of mind, no building upkeep problems, and on-call medical support, something which I would find comforting since my TIA.

[bobbie22]

I think you should seriously think about this and YOU be the one to make any decisions 

[anneasquith]

Maybe your family are concerned about your health Sandy. Do you agree with them you may require some assistance or are things at home ok as far as you are concerned.? 
I wonder if you require a second opinion. I'm sure it's similar in N Ireland as Scotland that social work ( care of the elderly) would visit with you and assess your needs. 
there are care packages available to help you stay at home . Don't rush into any decisions. 

[jno]

do you have any specific reasons yourself for wanting to move? I well know that houses, like their owners, become harder to keep up. Ideally we'd all stay put forever; in real life, circumstances change and we may need to be more dependent on others. Have you reached that point yet?