when my ex left me (with x grands worth of debt i didnt even know about, he is now in prison for fraud, completely different matter) i took the same details to my bank in order to sort out our joint account, the bank mananger kindly told me that the abbey national could cope without the amount we were talking about and that we should discuss the debt in 5 years when, hopefully, i would be in a position to pay. i still bank with the abbey national and 10 years later the debt hasnt been mentioned. i dont know why and i'm obviously not going to raise the issue, i would wait a bit longer before YOU write those debts off, but they might have written them off... but dont count your chickens just yet. :-) p.s. well done for doing the responsible (and brave) thing in facing up to your financial problems, you deserve to get a break just for doing that, i know how hard it is.