Im leaving tonight

[paulakea]

Look at my previous posts!
I left him last thursday, went back saturday and now think i did the wrong thing and do need to get out and go to mums.
He hasnt lost his temper with me again but lastnite i told him i feel locked up and need nights out with my mates, he insists on going out in the same town as me whn i do or meeting me for last orders.
He also said 'so now we are gonna live by your rules'!!
I think we want different things, booked the next 2 days off work and plan to try and talk to him tonight, i know he will cry and beg me not to go...help :-(

[raysparx1]

Hello paulakea,

I think you will be doing the right thing by getting out of this relationship, he wil NOT change no matter how many times he tells you he will,abusive people are abusive people,full stop,it might stop for a little while,he will try to make you feel guilty,don't fall for it,
I detest abusive men,they are week and pathetic control freaks, you deserve better than him,don't weaken when he turns on the tears,it is a ploy to control you,he will even believe he will change,but you must reliase the danger you could be in if you stay,get back to your mum and rebuild your life,good luck, Ray

[suzi-q]

Be strong... be sure of yourself - you ARE doing the right thing.

You are not being selfish if you put yourself first. You deserve to be happy. The only person who has made your bf unhappy is himself. If he did not keep on behaving like this you would not be leaving him. Sooner or later everyone must face the consequences of their own actions. This is his turn and if he cant work it out then thats his tough luck.

Good luck - Dont be swayed - dont feel sorry for him if he looks pitiful - you only have to go through it once if you mean it.

Go for it xx

[redcrx]

be strong and dont let him change your mind.

You need the space away from him to realise what you could do with your life without being looked over by him all the time.

As for him saying that about living by your rules. He seemed happy enough to make you live by his so ignore it.

You can do it, your mum will help you get through it.

Oh and give it a month you will need that time just to settle into a new routine.

Good Luck and dont let him whinge and whine, be firm with what you want.

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, once you leave someone , you should never go back. It makes the situation worse. Move out whilst your still in the mood for it...

[spk]

stick to your guns and be firm remember why you are doing it
GOOD LUCK X

[caz247]

As i said previously you are worth ten of him but
only you can take that first step to say "sod this I deserve better than this"
go to your mums and don't go back believe me paula
i have been there and it took me months to end it.
if you need to talk on msn its [email protected]
please take care

caz x

[druiaghtagh]

Just punt him my love, nobody should take abusive behaviour, i hope you find a nice man to cherish you so you can see that men are not all b*******ds, everyone deserves to be happy, good luck

[jno]

it doesn't really matter what he does or hwo he does it. The point is, you are clearly feeling unhappy in the relationship. So you should end it. I usually think people should try working out their problems before breaking up; but you've tried that and you're still unhappy.

[serendipity1]

good luck paulakea ! , please do it hun , im rooting for you big time! x

[PinkFizz]

paulakea - I have tried putting your name in the search engine to see your old posts but for some reason it comes up blank.Could somebody give me the gist of the background please??

[silverdaler]

i dont know your circumstances hun, but you must be strong now and leave. if there are no children involved that should make it easier. Heaven forbid if u had a child and his abusive behaviour did not end at you. !!!
Chin up - the world is full of much nicer people than him !
x

[ummmm]

Pinkfizz. There should be a question a few under this

[PinkFizz]

Ok,have seen a few posts now.Paulakea - please please PLEASE be strong and do not get back with him!!

I forgave my ex so many times I lost count.He was a bully, a control freak but when he wanted to he could cry like a baby.He even attampted suicide and left me to find him,then begged me not to leave him in front of the anbulance crew!!


You can do so much better and life is too short to do this to yourself.Go to your mums tonight and don't meet him.Please,for us lot!!

xx

[sam100]

you go girl!!!!