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Nosy Neighbours - Please help
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We have lived in our house for over two years now.
I have a problem which is driving me mad.
My neighbours constantly watch me from the windows.
If I go out, my husband go out, we have guests over, have a parcel delivered. They just watch.
It's driving me crazy and makes me feel down.
Its very embarrasing especially when we have friends over.
My neighbours live in a very big, joint family but its mainly the women and kids who watch from the windows.
I have tried to talk to them (as we were friends before) but they dont really listen.
I'm just so fed up I feel like moving but I cant coz I have a mortgage.
I appreciate any advice and thanks in advance
(P.S. I cant even wear english party clothes (short dresses) anymore coz they just stare, stare and stare)
I have a problem which is driving me mad.
My neighbours constantly watch me from the windows.
If I go out, my husband go out, we have guests over, have a parcel delivered. They just watch.
It's driving me crazy and makes me feel down.
Its very embarrasing especially when we have friends over.
My neighbours live in a very big, joint family but its mainly the women and kids who watch from the windows.
I have tried to talk to them (as we were friends before) but they dont really listen.
I'm just so fed up I feel like moving but I cant coz I have a mortgage.
I appreciate any advice and thanks in advance
(P.S. I cant even wear english party clothes (short dresses) anymore coz they just stare, stare and stare)
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.I've got a nosy neighbour who presides in judgement on other people and how they live their lives (myself included) I politely tell her to mind her own business and leave me to mine, similarly when she's going on about someone else I just say it's nonw of my business.
If all they're doing is looking out of the window talking to any of the authorities won't do any good because they've committed no crime.
Smile and be nice, if their objective is to be mean to you they'll seethe and if it is'nt they'll smile.
It seems an awful lot of fuss about nothing.
I'm surprised that you're struggling to come to terms with a solution as you're both sub-continental asians with similar social codes of manners.
If all they're doing is looking out of the window talking to any of the authorities won't do any good because they've committed no crime.
Smile and be nice, if their objective is to be mean to you they'll seethe and if it is'nt they'll smile.
It seems an awful lot of fuss about nothing.
I'm surprised that you're struggling to come to terms with a solution as you're both sub-continental asians with similar social codes of manners.
I would tell the nosy bitch to get a life and ask if they want a picture.
Do what ever you like, its your house you live there, and if they're stopping you from doing stuff you want to do, i would say thats intimidation, and you could tell the police about that.
Hehe, expose yourself, that would get them looking. Maybe you should stare at them as well, then they'll see what its like.
Are they foreign by any chance?
Do what ever you like, its your house you live there, and if they're stopping you from doing stuff you want to do, i would say thats intimidation, and you could tell the police about that.
Hehe, expose yourself, that would get them looking. Maybe you should stare at them as well, then they'll see what its like.
Are they foreign by any chance?
Minter is spot on and had me in fits. They are staring at you - but what are they seeing ? I had this same problem, so I took a chair down to the bottom of the garden underneath a rose bush and sat on it completely naked. My neighbour rustled the curtains and looked out and I waved cheerily at her. If you can simulate a hand shandy at the same time as waving and grinning then so much the better.
(My neighbour moved recently)
(My neighbour moved recently)
You say you are of Indian origins and your neighbours are strictly Pakistani muslim. Well there's your answer. You are obviously more liberal and westernised than them and they will see you as an object of fasination because you have and use your freedom to the full. Women and girls who are brought up in a very strict Moslim household are kept very much under the thumb by their male husbands/fathers etc. I should stop worrying so much about this and look upon it as envy. They probably are looking at you because they in some way want to do what you do, but can't. I should just wave to them and instead of feeling intimidated start to feel sorry for them. Get on with your life as you feel fit, let them watch you being happy and free it is probably their only pleasure to look out on to what they could have living in this free country of ours.
Thanks for your answers everyone!
I really do appreciate the advice as its a horrible situation.
Just to reply to a few suggestions.
I cant put up a fence or border because they live across the rd so we cant block their view.
In reply to bed knobs I know about the fact that they live on benefits coz as I said in my previous post we were once friends. (And coz they cant read or write English, they used to ask if I could fill out forms for them)
In reply to amsterdammer there is no way I would make this up. I mean why would I? I just hope you never have to be in my situation.
I really do appreciate the advice as its a horrible situation.
Just to reply to a few suggestions.
I cant put up a fence or border because they live across the rd so we cant block their view.
In reply to bed knobs I know about the fact that they live on benefits coz as I said in my previous post we were once friends. (And coz they cant read or write English, they used to ask if I could fill out forms for them)
In reply to amsterdammer there is no way I would make this up. I mean why would I? I just hope you never have to be in my situation.
I don't know why you're letting it stress you out - it's not like they're going to do anything...I think they are so bored as they never get out themselves( I mean think what it must be like stuck indoors day after day) they have to just watch the world go by through the window, like those lonely old dears that you read about that sit by their windows all day. Your neighbours probably don't have a tv so what else is there to do - even if it is bloody annoying .. And if you really can't get over it just put your house up for sale and look to buy elsewhere - people do it all the time..But don't stay if it's making you miserable...
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