passive aggressive notes...

[joko]

whats so wrong with writing a note to someone? surely its better than getting into a big argument with someone over an issue that isnt worth falling out about, but does need dealing with...?

people say its cowardly and say stuff like "at least have the decency to say it to my face", but if the person will just argue and shout, why put yourself in that position?

i think people that make that remark are actually just affronted or emarrassed at being challenged or having some wrongdoing flagged up and are just using that as a lazy excuse to try to belittle or demean the note writer...to make themselves feel better, than it actually having any credence, and to shift the focus of guilt...

i think sometimes a note is the best, kindest, most civilised way of communicating with some people.

(obviously i mean general notes - not abusive or unhinged ones)

what do you think?

(this does not relate to any circumstance - i have just been looking at a site called passive agressive notes)

[karenmac60]

It depends who you are dealing with though 4get and how you get on with them in general. Sometimes issues have to be dealt with but because of how they are, talking just isn't an option.

[joko]

sometimes its just conevenient...say you are going out, but discover say the tv plug is sparking so you unplug it... but want to let your flatmate know not to use the tv...so you leave them a note...
nothing wring with that...its necessary...but still people send them into pasive aggressive notes, as though its a snotty order...rather than just a way of poassing on info

some peopl instantly get annoyed by ther written word...