After death wish card, similar to donor card

[emma_llew]

Hi, I know this is a bit of a morbid question, but is there anything similar to a donor card that you can carry around in your purse or wallet that tells people whether you want a funeral or not after death and whether you would like to be cremated/buried etc?

I really want to find something like this because I think it's very important.

Any help is greatly appreciated. Thank you!

[carlton23]

I think a card stating that if you should have an heart attack and die where you drop, asking paramedics to leave you in peace and not revive you. I have a notice pinned up in my bedroom signed by my GP to that affect.

[Tilly2]

You could write a will..You're not going to just get buried or cremated without anyone knowing.

[Buenchico]

There's no 'official' document, simply because it would have no legal standing. For example you can put it in your will that you want to cremated, you can sign countless documents stating the same thing, tell all your friends and family and even hang banners outside your house with that message. You can even pre-pay for the cremation. If the person who arranges your funeral decides that you'll be interred, their wishes will take precedence.

Chris

[carlton23]

I omitted to say how pleased I am that the poor chap whom has been wanting to die for many months now has his wish. RIP.

[woofgang]

Have you made a will? My after death instructions are in there. You couls also arrange and prepay your funeral. You can always just write your own card and keep it in your bag or wallet. Myself i don't care as i won't be here.

[albaqwerty]

If you can have a bracelet (or locket or whatever) to let those know you are allergic to peanuts, why not have one to say Do Not Revive me?
I'm sure the paramedics would wait for a lawyer to open up his office to find out what was in a Will.

[woofgang]

but the OP isn't taking about DNR....

[rosieapple]

Have you looked on the dying matters website www.dyingmatters.org? They might be able to point you in the right direction.

[Buenchico]

As others have indicated, the most usual place to indicate your preference with regard to your funeral arrangements is in your will. However (as I've stated above) it's still not legally binding on anyone. Further, there's the problem that many people seem to regard it as 'insensitive' to read a will until after the funeral, which means that the wishes might be seen too late.

However there's nothing to stop you carrying a card (of your own design), stating your wishes, in your purse or wallet. But once again, some people don't like to 'go through the belongings' of a dead person until after their funeral.

The best you can do is to consider who will be planning your funeral and to tell them your wishes directly. Even that doesn't always work though; my mother repeatedly told me that she hated the idea of 'being eaten by worms' and that she wanted to be cremated - unfortunately she never told my father, who had made all of the arrangements for interment before I knew about them.