Her Lifes Worth In A Skip,

[TWR]

A neighbour of mine passed and was cremated on Tues, there was a skip outside her home, her son // Daughter was filling bit's into the skip until the job was done, she did not have a lot as her OH was not the best with money but liked the POP, the skip was taken away yesterday with all her life's possessions in it, hardly filling the skip, she was a lovely person, I felt for her and her Children. life can be sad can't it.

[waterboatman]

It can indeed TWR. But that's the way of it all too often.

[Cloverjo]

TWR, the skip would have contained just the rubbish, surely? Her other possessions - books, clothes etc would have gone on to be useful to someone else.

I have a load of junk that someone will have to sort out when I'm gone, and I'm sure it wouldn't quarter-fill a skip.

It's sad that she has died and had troubles. I don't think you can judge her on what her children have thrown away.

[TWR]

I knew the person very well Clov, I had done a few jobs for her, so I think I know from what was on view in her home, yes I know regards her pictures etc, I once valeted a car for her Husband, within the car I found a £100 concealed, when I told him, he said don't tell the wife.

[albaqwerty]

life is sad.
Neighbour of my FIL died a few years ago, her sons had skip outside and it was overflowing with furniture.
I hope her treasured possessions were handed down to family and friends though

[Peter Pedant]

happens quite a lot
the son and daughter may have nowhere to put the stuff

my neighbour died having kept the property warm for the absent son who reversed a pantechnicon up to the house and emptied it the next day and onto the housing market - and then went around enjoining how sad it was his mother had passed on
I found the juncture quite hard to take

he no doubt would have said the religious and practical sides should be dealth with separately

[Peter Pedant]

I have stated to my grasping relatives after my ssister in law threw my mothers books away
that if they do that to me - they will be throwing away valuable first editions ( Grays Anatomy and poems by the Bronte sisters - the rebadged edition) - Oh and my brother wants to give me a first ed of Vanity Fair ( because I knew what it was) springs to mind

you know a faberge measure turned up in Lyme Regis road show ?
Faberge into a skip and then a car boot sale

[ummmm]

You might think she had much but you don't know what was inside her cupboards.

When my grandad went into a home my aunt went round with post it notes labeling things that family members wanted to keep. I chose an ashtray :-) White goods were given away so when it came to skipping the rest it might not have looked like much.

[Quoi]

Her Life's worth wasn't what was put in the skip. That was just a few worn out possessions.

[kvalidir]

My brother runs an Auction company and this happens all the time. Relatives come have a quick look to see if there is anything they've seen on the antiques road show, call him in to see if he will either buy it as a house clearance or sell it for them if it's worth it and often it's not worth the price of moving it, but it's people's treasured possessions. It's unbearably sad. That being said he's found some amazing things in hoarder's clearances that the greedy skimmers have missed because they don't want to get their hands dirty, but that's not the point, he had one woman who didn't even want the photos of her and her Mum when she was a little girl, she just said 'Just tell me how much to dispose of it all'. Really sad :(

[mallyh]

we threw loads of photos away when my mum and oh mum died because there were so many and all the family picked out the ones to keep ,it was so sad to do it x

[ummmm]

That is sad.

All my nans books, photo albums and personal stuff were taken before we chose what we wanted to keep.

[kvalidir]

We're probably really weird then,lol, we literally have a really large chest of draws full of photos and letters going backto around 1860's, we even have some Daguerotypes, we just never throw photos away, so maybe it's my perspective because that's an alien thing for our family to do personally. Didn't mean to cause any offence. x

[mallyh]

kvalidir I wish we could have kept every thing but living in a bungalow without a lot of storage space we just couldn't .x

[Prudie]

I know it's a time when the scroungers fly in but sometimes (like when my mum died) you are not in the frame of mind to spend time considering each thing and whether it should be kept, just need to get on with the clearance. I have some regrets about things we sent off to charity on reflection. Would never throw photos away though.

[ummmm]

We'd never throw away a photo either.

I took my nans peeler. We used to have to make sandwiches for the pool and dart teams and she used it for slicing cheese. I took it because it reminds me of her and her patiently letting me do it. She used to pay us as well even though we slowed her job down.

[Old_Geezer]

I think one needs to concentrate more on the joy of being here rather than the sorrow of losing that. All our endeavours, sure as must return to dust. I'm sure your neighbour made many glad she used to be there.

In some ways living light is a good way to be. They'd need many skips to remove my treasured stuff.

[TWR]

I was watching a bloke yesterday taking a Metal Tray from the skip after looking through it, the other night there was a Computer chair there, the following morn it had gone, I know that's life but what a sad life it is.

[mallyh]

no not sad ^^ go to a car boot sale where one persons junk is anothers must must have .

[ummmm]

Why is it a sad life? Possessions mean nothing. It's the small things in life that make us happy.

There are only a few things in my house that I treasure.

[zebo]

I remember a couple on Cash in the Attic (or something like that) who were selling a set of Maundy money that their grandmother had left, it brought about £20 and they were delighted, they didn't look destitute and I thought it was a real shame not to keep it within the family.