i was in me motor the other day listening to the radio, think it was radio 2. anyhow, they were discussing the recent tragedy of the soldiers shot by the iraqi poiceman and the debate/phone in was about how 'next of kin' are notified of the death etc.
one girl couldn't speak so they relayed her message, she was 21 with a couple of kids and her husband was killed a year ago. her rcolection of the experience was vivid and tragic.
afterwards a lady came on the phone and told of how her father went missing in Sept 45, just before peace, when she was 4 years old. she was in floods of tears saying that you never get over it. the radio host was brilliant, the lady clearly wanted to talk and he asked her about her memories of that day when the ntelegram arrived (she could only emember her mums reaction) and also memories of her father. her story of him returning on leave and her hiding his cap so he "couldnt go back" was touching and heartfelt.
it was an emotional journey.