my best friend ,my ex and a horrible mess.

[Jenarry]

i've been separated from my ex for a year now after he cheated on me and went off with someone much younger and still i'm finding out how much of a scumbag he is/was.
my best friend told me tonight that ages ago at a new years eve party that he did somethinng to her that was unwanted on her part. everyone was asleep in the room in the early hours after the party including my friend and she woke up to some inappropriate touching by my ex. all this while her boyfriend and myself were just a few feet away.
my friend felt she hasn't been able to tell me and since we've split up and his cheating came to light she feels really bad because she could've put me in the picture to what he was like.
i've tried to reassure her that what's done is done and me being put in the picture wouldn't have made any difference in the long run but i think she still feels bad.
and i'm feeling shocked that he did this to my best friend where there was a big risk of being found out ,how many other women/girls has he done it to while we were together. (he has done something like this in the past before we were together to a 15 year old girl but he managed to talk his way out of it)
any views on this. my friend is wondering whether to come clean to more of our friends as she feels unable to attend get togethers where my ex is going to be present and feels she needs to explain.it's all a difficult mess that he's made again.

[Jenarry]

thanks for your input guys. :O( it was nothing like that. everyone else had just crashed out after a new years party myself included and my best mate too until my ex woke her up by assaulting her. thanks for making light of a it!!!

[ummmm]

I'd leave it to rest now. It's been a year now and she's confirmed that you're better off without him.

[Bobbisox]

Thats the blokes take on it Jen, I see where they come from tho' it is written as if there was a mass 'love in' with many bodies sprawled out in one area, however I am sure some have done this themselves, I am not sure now if it serves any purpose your friend spilling her guts to you, you are not with him now!
How old is he? the touching of a 15 yr old by someone older would be my biggest concern
Bobbi

[Jenarry]

yes i can see it could read that way but it's not like that at all. we have a good circle of friends where 'my house is your house' and we comfortable enough with each other to just stay over at the end of the night when we have a get together...it's all clean and you wouldn't feel concerned for yourself at all.
my friend has explained to me why she didn't say anything at the time and i understand. i really wish she had told me after we'd split up tho. i feel like i'm having to get my head around things all over again. she has decided to tell me now because she'd opened up to her new boyfriend (who is a policeman) about this and he made her see how serious the whole thing was.