facebook

[nextqueen]

im reposting but will try and explain myself more clearly!
scenario. you have a list of friends on facebook and everyone i assume can see the friends you have. if i add my husband to facebook, can he stop other people from seeing him on my list? im asking this as i dont want friends of friends to see him on there as someone we know is an old flame and we have had our ups and downs about trust in the past.

[B00]

I'm a bit confused. Are you saying you don't want oyur husband to know you have an old flame on FaceBook and you don't want oyur husband to know he's on it?

I that's the case I'd say the pair of you still have issues with trust! Either tell your husband that the ex is on there, or cut out the hassle and remove the ex.

But in answer to your question, no, I don't think he can be on your list without others seeing him there.

[sara3]

other friends, but you can set your friends list to be visible to friends only so that Joe Public can't see it.

if he's blocked particular people, they won't be able to see him or his posts.

[B00]

I thought she meant that if she added her husband to her friends list, could he make it so that her other friends (ie, the old flame) wouldn't know he was there?

And I still think the answer is no, you can't do that.

[sara3]

I think you're right, B00.

btw, I saw someone post on an FB status last night, and they had your avatar as a profile pic. I was proper confused!

[B00]

How very dare they!!!

[Ankou]

is the old flame a woman, and you don;t want her to see him on your list ?

its a bit bizarre. if you don't want your husband to be a visible friend, then why put him on your list?

all very odd indeed.

[B00]

Ahhh, I assumed the old flame was one of hers?

Still- not very conductive in a healthy marriage if you or him are hiding these things from each other, especially if you have issues with trust.

[Ankou]

quite. me and mrs kou abandoned facebook.

[New Judge]

Good grief, what a load of cobblers!

If you want to keep a particular issue private from anybody the last place you should publish it (with or without the "precautions" mentioned here which, it seems, might or might not work) is somewhere like Facebook. Just keep it to yourself and if you want to tell anybody about it whom you think you can trust just tell them and them alone by a private, secure method.

[joko]

he can block the person in question, an they wont be able to see him anywhere
check out the privacy options

[whiskeryron]

I saw a prog about f/b ages ago & I was astonished to discover how very public throughout the world it is where other people can quite easily obtain your information, I very quickly gave it the elbow. Ron.

[snags]

''Good grief, what a load of cobblers! If you want to keep a particular issue private from anybody the last place you should publish it (with or without the "precautions" mentioned here which, it seems, might or might not work) is somewhere like Facebook.''

^ The voice of reason.

[New Judge]

Yes, of course, totally unreasonable.

Conversely it’s perfectly reasonable to consider publishing to wide audience information that you want some people to be privy to and not others. Especially when the vehicle for publication is something like Facebook, which has demonstrated on numerous occasions that information which contributors have provided in the expectation that it will remain confidential to a chosen few ends up in the hands of all and sundry.

I know what. I’ll write a book containing some private information, get it published (with the likelihood that some copies will end up in public libraries) and then I’ll ask advice about how to keep my secrets private.

I think that’s also perfectly reasonable.

[nextqueen]

ok an example. a woman i know has a list of friends on facebook. her husband isnt on there to view as a friend yet i know he has an account where its just the simple profile name, no pic and town. so therefore can someone be on your list of friends but you cant see them?