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Should I Write To Her?
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Hi. I want to say sorry for the long post, but I needed to write like this so you can understand it. I’m from Denmark where I study. Yesterday I participated in the yearly easterlunch with my volunteer workplace, which only is for students at the local university. A lot of people attended down at the workplace and as you might imagine that ended up in a lot of alcohol, and also for me. There I had my eyes on this girl who is from Switzerland by the way. As it turned out she was also looking my way. After the food and a lot of different, funny activities we headed off for a pub crawl.
At the first bar I ended up next to her and we talked and chatted for quite some time. At some point she putted her arm on my shoulder and I took my arm around her back as holding her kind off. She liked it and she actually put her head on my shoulder for a short time. But after that bar we didn’t talk or walk together until we left the second bar to go to the third bar. There though we went together, just us, where we were talking, laughing and joking with each other while we had our arms around each other. At the third bar we sat across each other while playing drinking games with the other participants of this pubcrawl. In there we were flirting with our eyes meaning that it was hard for us to stop looking at each other kind off. And when we left for the fourth bar we again went together, though this time we were not holding each other since we left with others aswell. At the fourth bar her and I were alone talking until we left for the fifth bar. At the fifth bar we ended sitting right next to each other and then we started flirting with our fingers while holding hands.
But after that bar we no longer went together since we ended up with a lot of the other participants. And at the sixth and last bar we did not sit together and therefore we did not flirt. At that point I was also getting super drunk and therefore I was stupid enough to not give her that much attention. When we left the sixth bar we and the rest of us who was left in that pubcrawl group went back to the workplace to drink more beer.
At the time we went back to the workplace I sometime ended up walking next to her where we again talked but also some of the times we were not going next to each other in the group. At the workplace she left quite soon after because she had to reach a bus home and I didn’t think that I should follow her to the bus because as I said when I get drunk I end up being quite oblivious and doesn’t think like I’m kind off supposed to.
But after she left I thought I were stupid not giving her a more sincere goodbye. So I thought I need to add her on Facebook and after about 20 minutes after she accepted my friendrequest. But I didn’t write her though and now it’s been about 19 hours since she accepted my request. And here is my questions, do you think I have to write her? Do you think I will have a chance? Should I go for her considering she is only going to stay in Denmark for another 2-3 months?
At the first bar I ended up next to her and we talked and chatted for quite some time. At some point she putted her arm on my shoulder and I took my arm around her back as holding her kind off. She liked it and she actually put her head on my shoulder for a short time. But after that bar we didn’t talk or walk together until we left the second bar to go to the third bar. There though we went together, just us, where we were talking, laughing and joking with each other while we had our arms around each other. At the third bar we sat across each other while playing drinking games with the other participants of this pubcrawl. In there we were flirting with our eyes meaning that it was hard for us to stop looking at each other kind off. And when we left for the fourth bar we again went together, though this time we were not holding each other since we left with others aswell. At the fourth bar her and I were alone talking until we left for the fifth bar. At the fifth bar we ended sitting right next to each other and then we started flirting with our fingers while holding hands.
But after that bar we no longer went together since we ended up with a lot of the other participants. And at the sixth and last bar we did not sit together and therefore we did not flirt. At that point I was also getting super drunk and therefore I was stupid enough to not give her that much attention. When we left the sixth bar we and the rest of us who was left in that pubcrawl group went back to the workplace to drink more beer.
At the time we went back to the workplace I sometime ended up walking next to her where we again talked but also some of the times we were not going next to each other in the group. At the workplace she left quite soon after because she had to reach a bus home and I didn’t think that I should follow her to the bus because as I said when I get drunk I end up being quite oblivious and doesn’t think like I’m kind off supposed to.
But after she left I thought I were stupid not giving her a more sincere goodbye. So I thought I need to add her on Facebook and after about 20 minutes after she accepted my friendrequest. But I didn’t write her though and now it’s been about 19 hours since she accepted my request. And here is my questions, do you think I have to write her? Do you think I will have a chance? Should I go for her considering she is only going to stay in Denmark for another 2-3 months?
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there is such a thing as thinking way to much. she was obviously interested in you so forget the virtual other than to arrange to meet her. Its easier to tell if someone likes youin person. Dont waste time - coffee and chat tomorrow ok
18:59 Sun 27th Mar 2016
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Please ignore the usual cynical responses from bitter old men on here who have forgotten what it is like to be young!
Write a simple message as advised, saying you had a nice time, and see what she writes back.
Be prepared to accept that her behaviour may have been a little alcohol-influenced as well, but you have nothing to lose by sending a note to her.
Good luck.
Write a simple message as advised, saying you had a nice time, and see what she writes back.
Be prepared to accept that her behaviour may have been a little alcohol-influenced as well, but you have nothing to lose by sending a note to her.
Good luck.
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