..........do you beleive that you should be heading somewhere in life and/or on the right path??
I always aimed for 30, to be educated, established in a career, home owner etc..... I am now 29 and have my home but I really hoped to be doing better in work. I have done well for myself but was promoted to a middle management job fairly young and have now held this position for 6 years. I have hit a wall with no promotion on the horizon but for financial reasons I am unable to start a new career or go back to education as I have bills to pay and responsibilities to my family.
Relatively speaking, should I know by now what I want to do and where I am heading??
In my case 35 was my crunch point. I had achieved everything I had wanted to achieve re the house, family, car etc very similar to you. I was either in for a corporate slow death or an exciting self employment - no contest & loved (nearly) every minute.
Can't speak for anyone else, but lately im considering it a bonus that we're keeping our heads above water (just about!) and able to put food on the table each day.
Im that busy thinking about that ^ that I don't look long term!
I wanted children and a house before i was 30, which i did. I loved where i was working, in a Residential home, but I did realise I'd never really makes y money from it and I'd always wanted my own business. Once the children were a little older and my mum retired and was happy to babysit, i started a homecare business with my sister, which we both love.
I think i had different aims by different ages. Not decided what my next one is though. Any ideas?!
Boo, I am like you but as I approach 30, it is the first "grown up" mile stone in my opinion and one is starting to wonder if I want to continue to live where I do and work where I work etc or, is there more?? If I dont set my aims higher, this might be it. In terms of employment, my home and my car I am Mr Average. Maybe in todays climate to be permanently employed in a relatively well paid job (relative to what we need) isnt a bad thing.
I have only ever wanted enough to live my life comfortably - I've never seen myself as ambitious or career orientated particularly although I do well in most jobs I take. I don't compare what I have to what others have, I have things they don't and they have things I don't - as long as me and mine are happy then that's all that really matters to me.
The older and wiser you get you realise that material things are just "stuff" and more often than not "clutter", all that really matters is that you and yours are healthy, well fed a bed to sleep on and your head above water - eutopia.
I think people take life far too seriously. If you can pay the bills, have some left to enjoy yourself and are healthy, why worry about what might be or might have been? Just try and enjoy every day to the full.
Each makes their own individual path. Some, those most likely to "do well" do indeed plan out the next 5 to 7 years and go for it. Some, like myself, are more opportunistic and I think have less stress because of it (but I may be fooling myself) but I think also tend not to progress as far, as high.
If your mind is the sort that likes to plan goals and go for them then great, but don't beat yourself up if that's not you. In the end we are all heading for the same place.