Hi Im New, And Need Advice On This Girl Ive Fallen For

[smith95]

Im 17, lets save the too young to be in love debate for another day :) I started a college course (UK) in september and noticed a pretty attractive girl in my class, as I sat back and observed her behaviour for a week I became more attracted, I never spoke to her as I wanted her to break the ice, when I like a girl I tend to have the least interaction with her in the group. Eventually we got talking, and my shyness towards her was a mis-match for her quirky, bubbly personality so I seemed a bit boring tbh. She was trying to break my shy shell, she would ask me to go to lunch with her, go to the printer for 5 minutes etc when discussing hair on guys she called me all the way across the class just to look at my legs lol this all led me to believe she may like me, with no disrespect to my male friends in the class who are not as concerned with their appearance as me I would guess im the most attractive guy in the class so it would be natural for us to gravitate towards eachother.

My shyness slowly destroyed my chance if I had one, she started doing stuff with the other guys in the class which made me think maybe im the same as them, but something was special and developing when she used to ask me. I decided because my shyness ruins things, Ill avoid her and continue to be my funny comfortable self around others, it was painfully obvious yet became the norm. I got bad acne, im still recovering now, its nearly gone but for the past 2 months its made me avoid coversing with her as my confidence was drained, im sure im now classed as the good looking guy who it is awkward to chat to and doesnt want to talk for whole days. She compliments my clothes, thats good, because she is so beautiful and knows it I dont know whether to compliment her and be boring, or tease her like I did when we first spoke. She is really into herself and looks, vain and knows she is stunning, gets complimented 24/7. My acne is nearly gone, im going in to give it another shot, I need advice :( I havent gone into detail about my infatuation/love for this girl but if I had to choose a wife right now id choose her.

[baza]

have you tried clearasil?

[jno]

how about neither teasing her nor complimenting her but just talking to her as you would to other people? Forget that she's gorgeous (and that you are) and just chat. Once you start getting on with each other as human beings, you can both decide whether you want to get more deeply involved.

But be prepared for the possibility that she doesn't. Or that on closer inspection, you may not either.

[rojash]

Kinda puzzled that in this post you're the "good looking guy who it is awkward to chat to", whereas in your previous one you "can't remember seeing anyone with an overbite worse than mine which looks like I have no chin sometimes."

TBH, I think you are a female troll.

[lady-janine]

i think you both go twit twoo together or apart.

[Svejk]

I'm not disagreeing with you, Rojash. And I'm certainly not in the sisterhood (quite the opposite)
But I'm just curious as to why/how
you think the poster is female.

[grasscarp]

She called me all the way across the class just to look at my legs"
Really what makes you say that? She can look at anything without calling that person? If you are wearing trousers there can't be that much to see?

[Zacs-Master]

IF you are genuine, I thnk you're far too immature for a relationship at the moment. I also think you may be confusing being good looking with having fashion sense.

[grasscarp]

Zacs master read smith's other post as he is seeking surgery on nhs for his overbite and lack of chin so cannot be good looking at the moment.

[rojash]

Hi thetaliesin

I love to read - four or five books a week. In 55 odd years of reading, I've found only around 5 or 6 writers who can write in a consistent and believable first person voice which is not of their own gender. It's pretty difficult to pinpoint what it is in a writing style that indicates the gender of the writer (if it wasn't, then any decent author could "swap" gender to order).

Assuming that the post is fictional (and I've already indicated my reasons for that belief) then there is something about the style that, to me, say "female".

[Zacs-Master]

I was aware of that grasscarp, hence my speculative conclusion.

[grasscarp]

I just find the whole thing a mass of contradictions. I am my normal funny self and in another sentence I am painfully shy.

[daffy654]

I agree with Rojash, this poster does come across as female, one of the reasons is that I have never met a 17 year old boy who ever talks about getting married in a positive light as this poster does at the end of their post.

[Tilly2]

Who would want to be seventeen again? All that angst!

[tonyav]

I wouldn't mind Tilly !.

[Tilly2]

Twenty one would be nice, Tony, but not seventeen.

[sara3]

just read the other question, and have never known any teenager use the word "distraught".

anyway, if you're real you sound weirdly obsessed. back off and leave her alone.

[tonyav]

Ok Tilly I'll settle for that.

[gness]

Tony...if you were seventeen I could be your Granny. x