a friends child.

[kc79]

hi,i'm after some advice.my son was being bullied in school by a friends child,so i asked my friend to have a word with her son about it and she told me that my son was just as bad and she had been to the school about it.ok fair enough, so i asked my son about it and he admitted that he did start some things first,so he was told off about it and told to stay away from the other child.any way the other child is very sneaky (if thats the right word)because he would use any excuse to walk up to my son and push him,nudge him etc.we were in the park a few weeks ago and the other child was there,and my son spent the whole time in the bushes hiding because the other child kept trying to hit him.on leaving the park my son was blocked by this child so i said "stop being a brat and let him get past"i could of said worse.his mum heard and had a massive arguement with me in front of kids,while her child was just smirking.she saw what was happening and never once told her son off which was what annoyed me.anyway,i don't want to fall out over the kids so i left it a few weeks and asked her today if we were still friends,to which she threw back in my face.should i bother trying again or leave her to it.my kids are not angels but they know how to respect other people and get told off when they are doing wrong.

[xhxmxsx]

she obviously has a case of butter wouldnt melt as we all do when it comes to kids, leave her she'll come round

[rabbitygirl]

Nothing changes. It happens to most mums and kids. There is nothing quite like the kids falling out to invite the mums to do the same. When you are not looking he may well be mates again with his friend and forget to tell you. Us mums used to have occasional problems like this but our friendships have endured over decades because most of us saw the situation resolve as above.

[pixiepie]

its never a good idea to fall out over kids as they will be friends again the next minute. However there is a lad near us who is exactly the same and his mum thinks he is an angel. Its never his fault always someone elses.When i spoke to her about it she got nasty so i just left it and as my kids got older they wised up to him and now he and his mum barely speak to anyone because of there behaviour. Hurt me to lose her friendship at the time but only now after going through it with others ( 4 kids so lots of falling out) have i realised that decent parents appreciate being told and will try to fix the problem. My advice would be to leave her alone

[annie0000]

i think that parents who know their children are rarely surprised by their behaviour - very few children are angels and have never started anything, but for most, this sorts itself out and they work out for themselves how to behave (with guidance from their parents). However, you always get these types that refuses to believe that their darling could ever get up to anything. invariably their kids are the worst because they have never had their behaviour checked by their parent. The school will be well aware of those types of children and those types of parents. Your "friends" child is what we in Scotland would describe as sleekit. It sounds like a terminal case - Dot and Nick Cotton spring to mind!

Personally I would leave her to it - doesn't sound like much of a friend to go behind your back to the school rather than speaking to you privately

[missrandom]

I'd give leave her to it. Be mature and civil, and if she speaks to you, I'd answer her. But that would be it, I'd rise above it and not give her a second thought.

[hitch]

your friend is not a friend ,she know what her son did and purposefully defended him,ditch her and defend your son .
it's war now.

[lam143]

Hi, I would just leave it and get on with your own things, otherwise she is doing to you what her child is trying to do to yours i.e. maniuplating, mind games. Get on with things nice to see a mother who's kids are taught respect in this day and age. Your child wont be the last one he bullies and eventually she will realise this then she'll be asking to be your friend