I hate him but I can't stop thinking about him?

[mally2012]

I lost my virginity to a guy and really regret it. We started seeing each other for a couple months we just basically had sex with each other and hung out. It was fun and good to have someone to spend time with everytime I saw him I got butterflys in my tummy but things just ended because I went off to uni. He got back with the mother of his child and after I came back from uni I saw him again because I had missed him and he said that I'd changed and things were really different I guess I grew up a bit.

A couple weeks later I had tried to meet him but blew him out because I got into a argument with my Dad and he was really angry with me and told me to delete his number because he left his daughter early to come see me that really upset me. He didn't reply to my texts or calls but a couple weeks later I had loads of missed calls of him. I called him back but he ignored me and I was completely confused .

I text him after finding his number in my phone and he stopped replying after it he found out it was me. I decided move on and tried to forget about him but a week later I come to find out he gave my number to one 'friends' and they started pestering me for sex I was fuming I ignored it and text him not to do it again. But then I saw him and got all butterflies in my stomach again I hate him so much but I can't stop thinking about him he makes physically sick but still have feelings for him.

[Sqad]

Right.

[emmie]

succinct ^^

[craft1948]

You're at uni..................good grief!

[snags]

''I guess I grew up a bit''

And still a way to go. Forget him and move on.

[Kiki-frog]

If he passed your number on to a mate, then he's a worthless pig and you need to move on. You're worth much more than that

[Tilly2]

What are you doing at uni? Creative writing ?

[tonyav]

LOL @ kiki worthless pig lol.

[Kiki-frog]

why the lol, tony? Not that I'm objecting if I've made you smile, of course

[tonyav]

Worthless pig, kiki. I found that amusing.

[Kiki-frog]

OK, fair enough

[Note to self: tonyav is even weirder than you suspected]

[tonyav]

But not as kinky as kiki.

[Old_Geezer]

If you still have feeling for someone who is clearly not worth your interest, and whatever there was is in the past, then you need to wait for time to heal things. Humans are adaptable they return to normality fairly soon, usually. But you need to accept you want to move on, not indulge yourself with thoughts like these. If you find yourself thinking about him, accept the thought arrived, and then move on to thinking about something else. Don't wallow in the thought 'enjoying the butterflies', or the subconscious will note that one drew interest and be inclined to bring it up again. Find something else to occupy your mind until it tires of bringing this subject up.

[pizza]

Old geezer look at all her links never had sex but then lost her verginity thanks tilly for the wake up call to another Newbie x
mally don't abuse answerbank!!!

[mally2012]

All I wanted was some sensible answers and advice from people but WOW! If you can't write anything useful there's no point in wasting your time and writing unnecessary things.

[boxtops]

people do look back at your other threads, mally, and you are contradicting yourself. You don't seem to have a very high opinion of yourself if you keep meeting guys and having sex just like that - the guy you're talking about now is even giving your number to his mates. He sounds a nasty time - stop remembering the good times, remember what he's done to you now (which is awful) - stop pestering him with texts and calls, it've over.

[joeluke]

You don't hate him, you're obsessed with him

[jd_1984]

Time is a great healer - not what you want to hear at the time, but it really is true! You are obviously young and going through your first crush. You may have to go through a few more before you make some good decisions, but we all been there!

[Scarlett]

Sadly, he knows that the right thing to do is to try and make a go of it with his child's Mum. Also sadly, a young man like this is not going to turn down the opportunity to have sex with a girl. You will interpret him having sex with you as him liking you enough to even have sex with you. Not so, sex to most men is just sex. To you, it involves feelings and emotions. That's the big barrier between men and women- we are poles apart in this. For the sake of the child, leave him alone now and let him get on with his relationship. Plus, if he gave your number to a friend who wanted sex, sorry, but he clearly thinks you are "easy". If you really like someone and want to have a relationship with them, try NOT having sex with them. make them work a bit harder, prove they like you enough to stay with you without sex. If all you have to offer is sex, that is all they will want, and all you will get.