Hating your job!

[cymruambyth1]

Has anyone out there hated their job so much that they just couldnt bare to go there anymore?

I currently hate my office job and my boss makes my life a misery that I just cant face going in anymore, and if it werent for rent and bills I would just leave, but my boyfriend just doesnt understand, he just keeps saying another job will come up, but I cant stand my work now, let alone having to fill in forms, waiting for the closing date, then waiting for them to go through applicants...etc

Has anyone else had this or having this? I am just hoping I am not alone.

Thanks

[Kleiber]

Can't really help with any useful advice, but I had a job once that lasted 4 hours! I arrived in the morning, instantly hated my supervisor and thought the rest of the staff were a load of wallies, went for lunch & never went back!!! I was out of work for a bit, but something else came up. If you hate it that much, start looking for another job - you have to be pro-active - they won't come looking for you! pob luc!! K x

[meglet]

Try posting your CV on Monster. I did this and absolutely tons of calls from agents. So many I took it down after a few days. Then just get them to find you a job!

What do you do?

[Myriad2112]

Life's too short, Even if you just leave then find something.
People are often afraid of change but it's only after you change your life you will begin to question why you didn't do it ages ago.

[bananie]

i did that last year. I left a job i had been in for 6 years to take up a new job that, on paper, looked wonderful. I had to work for 2 women who were complete bitches and treated me like a skivvy when I was supposed to be their 'Executive Assistant'. It got so bad that i faked every illness to avoid going into the place and after some serious thinking, I went in one morning, there were emails that they had written to each other badmouthing some staff, so I forwarded them to the staff in question and left a big note on thier door saying 'I RESIGN', I signed up for a Law Degree at Uni which I am doing just now as it's something i've wanted to do for a long time. It is a struggle financially, but I'm way, way happier than this time last year!!

I say go for it - life is too short to be miserable in a job. Tell them to shuv it - something will turn up eventually.

[evedawn]

Oh Cymru....poor u! Know where u are coming from cos i've been there in the past. had a job that paid brilliantly but after 3 years the stress and a***hole managers were literaly driving me mad! Despite the risk of losing my good salary the hub supported me emotionally and suggested to resign straight away - which i did.

I took some time off (3 weeks) and found another job doing something totally different - have been with new workplace for a year nearly and love it. The salary much, much lower but...as long as the mortgage and bills are paid then we (both) think that having me happy is worth far more than fancy things that money buys.

I'd say if you can afford it, (and that might mean cutting your expenditure drastically) then resign TOMORROW! take a SHORT break (not too long or u'll get used to not working) and using the week or two off to recharge ur battery and look for something else. If all esle fails there are plenty temp jobs out there - even if it means doing something many would consider menial.

GOOD LUCK - type that resignation letter tonight!

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[Roughquest]

I did this recently, having been made redundant my agency found me a permanenet job, great salary etc, but after a week I found the work unbearable, the staff were all under so much pressure and one of the partners were just horrible, treated the women like dirt, so after a week i walked, I live on my own and had a mortgage to pay etc and with only �2 in my pocket, which was scary but never looked back - am now in a good job, slightly less money but the people and working conditions are fantastic ! MAKE THE BREAK - you will thank yourself for it. LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO BE UNDERVALUED. Good luck !!!!!

[turquoise]

I totally hate my job now, i can't stand being there for another minute. We work in a team and my manager and teamleader just relies on me too much and i thought, sod this, i'm gonna start looking for a new job. And so i did. I've got about 2 weeks left working there and i can't wait. I'm really excitied and looking forward to a change. But will absolutely miss the people. But is is seriously a pressurised and stressful job.

So I say go for it, if you really hate it, just start looking for something you might like and i'm sure something will come up!

Good Luck!

[{Dakota}]

I am completely with you, cymru! I hate my job too, really hate it.

I also work in an office environment and have done since I left school. I floated between jobs for a few years, then I landed lucky and started temping in a really good Company and was taken on as staff. I've movedonwards and upwards in the Company, I am about to start my 2nd year at Open University, which my Company is paying for and my salary is really good. What more can I ask for eh?

One problem, the place is sucking the life out of me. I dread getting up in the morning, I sit at a poxy desk all day, I have to liaise with jumped up little 5hits all day. I just hate it. I had a cold 2 weekends ago and into the first part of last week, I was better by Wednesday but I took the opportunity to milk it as I just couldn't face going in. I didn't go back until yesterday!

The thing is, I turned 30 a couple of weeks ago and this REALLY depressed me and anyone I tried to talk about it with just didn't get that it wasn't the number I was upset about ("oh don't be daft, it'sonly a number" kind of comments), but the sheer fact that for the last 10 years I've been aware that sitting my arse infront of a computer just doesn't suit me but thinking "oh, I'm still in my 20's, I've got plenty time to change it". Here I am, 30 and I haven't bl00dy changed it and the thought of a further 35 years fills me with dread.

Cont.

[{Dakota}]

So, a couple of weeks ago, I started to think about what I would be doing if not sitting at that sodding desk all day. There are 2 things that I enjoy doing as a hobby that can be transferred into making a career out of. I'll be looking into it over this coming weekend, but I know that if it's what I decide to do I'm going to have to put myself through college / Uni. This is a task in itself really since I'm bound to a mortgage, however, if I'm determined, I'll manage.

So, no you're not alone at all! I'm sorry for my little rant to myself on your thread, but maybe it'll give you a push to do something you truly enjoy too?

[Ice.Maiden]

Go for it Dakota. It must be the worst thing in the world to be stuck in a job that you hate - for whatever reason. Good luck - x

[{Dakota}]

Fancy paying my mortgage for a couple of years while I go for it?? LOL :)

[tiggerblue10]

I know how you feel about the boss situation. I am currently waiting for the outcome of my grievance against my boss for bullying.

Other than that I do actually enjoy my job. If my boss wasn't there of course.

[bananie]

Dakota, I have a mortgage as well, but I manage. Student Loan doesn't cover anything but I've done a couple of part time jobs to bring in some more money - it's so much easier to work somewhere when you know it's not for ever.

[Ice.Maiden]

Oh no!!! Shock, horror! Sorry Dakota - my reply was meant for cymruambyth. Lol x

[{Dakota}]

That's another bugbear of mine too, my boss! He's such a bully! He doesn't in such a sleekit way that if I did go to HR, they'd think me crazy because I just can't describe how he is. He's so far up the arses of the upper management, there's just no point. He's not so bad toward me because I'm quite strong and he knows I will fight back, but some of the more timid (for want of a better word, they're not timid in the true sense, if that makes sense??), he goes to town with.

The day I tell him he can shove his job where the sun don't shine will be the best day of my year!

[Shirl]

I don't know many people who actually enjoy their job. Those that do are very lucky. Most just work to pay bills. My job is tedious too. I wouldn't say I enjoy it. I work amongst some very unfriendly people.

But try and look at it this way. Its better than being unemployed. Having no self esteem from claiming benefits. Have been there in the past. And having a job is better than having no job at all. And looking for another job is easier when you are in employment already. So just keep a look out for something better.

[{Dakota}]

LOL @ Ice-Maiden! Damn!

Bananie - I know I could probably make my mortgage payments if I take part time jobs and live on any Grant money I get (I've yet to look into what kind of money I would get in a Grant), but it's still a scary thought to be earning what I am now and not worry about anything financially to earning very little at all. I've toyed with the idea of moving in with my Dad....that's scarier than the no money LMAO!

[bananie]

lol, in fact today I said to my boyfriend that all I ever seem to do these days is stand with my hand out for money off him!! it is scary and i had a few wobbles worrying about money, but its still better than working in that godawful place.

[Ice.Maiden]

Hope it's sooner rather than later Dakota. Bosses like that must be a PAIN in the place where the sun never shines - x