i need a straight up opinion fom someone who can relate please.

[ANGELEYES07]

what do i do when my son's father relies more on me to take care of the bills like our car note , rent, electric , gas, car insurance...because he quit his job end of february...but told me neva just up and quit unless you have a back up. he didn't even call me before he did. so that i could at least talk him out of it now he only work from 5pm to 9pm and to me its a waste of time because he's only getting minimum wage. mean while i buss my ass working full time making 12 dollars. he smokes weed and hasn't quit but keeps telling me he will. yes he buys our food and cooks but thats it my 07 malibu now has like 26,000 miles because of him i honestly need help and a straight up opinion from some one who can relate not just criticize .oh our son is 11 months old. and i'm not the type to give up on my relationship so i definitely don't wanna give up on my son and have him grow up with out his father...but **** it i can do bad by my self.

[tigersam258]

hi angeleyes

if the job is that bad sometimes your hand is forced and so he may have been in an untenable position.

I was in a similar job and left just before christmas and spent 6 weeks looking for a new job with no money and i earn three times my wife normally so the bills were a concern. however i considered that most creditors would at least give you a chance if you can show them willingness to pay whereas working for someone that bad may end up a lot worse as the person could end up with stress, emotional or mental problems and so may not earn enough longer term.

my heart goes out to you and I hope that it all works out ok.

[Babyblues]

I speak from experience your situtation is just like mine, except my boyfriend and I have a 4 month old daughter. I never thought I would even consider leaving him becuse I didn't want my daughter to grow up without her father but you must know that if your doing everything yourself and he is doing nothing really then do it on your own. He will always be the babys father and just because your not together your child should still have there father if not it wouldn't be your fault. As long as you allow him to be part of your childs life and he ends up not being there you did what you had to do for you and your baby. Life is far to short to be living in a way that doesn't help you out. or even makes you happy.
It's your life you make it the way you want it. it is time to do what you feel you need to do and what you should do. because if you let things keep going on like this your going to fall just as far as I did. It is hard to keep up with someone that is so far behind it only slows you down.