Dreading planning wedding

[Velvetee]

Are there any other ladies, who are married or are due to get married and didn't want to or enjoyed planning their wedding?

I'm due to get married in April, but my ideal wedding would be just me, my Fiance and our mothers at a registry office. However, my partner wants something a bit more elaborate, with guests, fancy food and all the crap associated with weddings.

He has been asking me to contact the venue, to synchronise registrar dates with the date we want there, for about a week. I just dread dealing with all this. I don't even want to find a wedding frock.

[barney1966]

think you should have a talk about what you really want

[ummmm]

My BF has mentioned marriage. I told him the only way I'd do it is to go away on our own and not tell anyone until we got back.

The thought of walking down the isle and being the centre of attention would make me want to stay unmarried for the rest of my life.

[redcrx]

cant you compromise?
youve got enough on your plate at the moment by the sound of it without trying to organise a huge wedding in such a short space of time.
would it be easier for you if you were to wait a bit?

[QueenOfAmber]

I'm getting married too but what I've done is get my friends to do all that cr@ppy stuff and me and my man are just enjoying our time together... picking the dress is good though because there's so much choice!! Enjoy it - YOU'RE GONNA BE A MRS!!

[123everton]

The moment you announce your engagement you become public property.
Everybody wants you to have their perfect wedding, dunno the answer, just an insight.

[Eve]

Why don't you comprise, have the actual wedding as you want which you organise then have a psrty after as he does which he can organise.

[andy-hughes]

I think it will be a rush to plan a full-blown ceremony in four months.

Why not postpone for twelve months, which will give you plenty of time to sort things out?

Or, and i think this is more likely, you really don;t want to get into the serious hassle of planning a wedding, no matter when it takes place, then you need to have a serious talk with your partner.

The wedding is like the marriage - it's about the two of you, and starting off married life with an event you clearly don't want is not the best start for anyone.

If your partner is so keen for all the circus that goes on - let him do the organising, and you will just turn up - a role reversal if ever there was one!

Better would be for you to have a serious talk about it. Explain how you feel, and if he is the right man for you, and I am sure he is, he is going to understand that having his way by putting this pressure on you is not the way to show your love for the woman you are spending the rest of your life with.

If he digs his heels in, and insists on having a big wedding, against your wishes, then you should look seriously at whether you should be going ahead at all. If you disagree fundamentally before you are married, then you will continue to do so afterwards.

Hope you get it sorted - please let us know.

[Velvetee]

Thanks Andy, I'm very vocal and not backward at coming forwards, stating my thoughts to him. We are both quite traditional and want to be married before the baby is born.

I have never been the kind who has wanted a big fairytail wedding, so in 12 months, I wouldn't feel any different about it. We did have a discussion last night and we planned on having the registrar come to the licensed venue, but cut down on the number of guests.

I still can't be bothered with having to find a pregnant dress and all the hair and pampering stuff. I'd just like to wear my comfortable leggings and trainers.

[QueenOfAmber]

Aww andy! What would we do without you eh?

Hope it turns out brilliantly Velvetee! ;)

[dot.hawkes]

it sounds as though there is very little to plan, just ring the register office and get a date sorted then go to a Carvery for the �3.50 all day roast dinner with a few close family, save your miney for the baby.