Irrationally Angry?????

[miacat]

I'm sorry I really just want to rant but I'm absolutely fuming!!!!! I called work this morning to let them know that unfortunately I would not be able to make it in (again!) as the roads are still too icy where I live (very rural) and it's too dangerous (with young children in the car) work has been closed for the last 12 days and is re-opening ofr the first time today as main roads have been cleared. My boss' response was "well so and so lives near you and she's here, you might at least make the effort" now, in some ways I appreciate what she's saying but....maybe so and so has a 4x4 or she doesn't need to take her kids with her or she lives just off the main road and has no problems with icy hills!!! etc etc. The more I think about it the more upset I get - I can't seem to let it go - am I being unreasonable?

[miacat]

BOO, you're right, we should always think of the other perons issues as well - I was just being childish and selfish (this stems from my craving for everyone to like me!)- I shall now return to my zen-like usual self and serenity shall be restored.......

[pastafreak]

When you go in tomorrow-just explain to your boss that you were thinking more of the safety issues of driving in such conditions with small children,than anything else. Emphasise the fact that you have never taken any time off-and it is not something you take lightly. Maybe she will take into consideration the fact that many people are not confident about driving in icey conditions.

[tiggerblue10]

We have the same situation where I work. If someone calls in to say they can't come in due the weather we would normally ask them to try and make it in whatever time they can. It is probably different for you as you have a deadline to make the sandwiches for the kiddies but every effort should be made.

Last Feb when it was icy I was walking very slowly to the bus stop and I slipped and nearly did the splits. I managed to get up though and make it into work. I was late but they understood. And if there was someone who didn't understand they got an eyefull when I waved my bl00dy knee at them! Lol

[miacat]

Good going tiggerblue - be careful it's slippy out there! Pastafreak, your wise and calm words are like a soothing balm on my temperement - thank you.

[B00]

Don't follow their suggestion ^!!!

The perfect way to find yourself on the dole queue!

[pastafreak]

awww...thanks mia.. (hug)

[miacat]

Um, yeah....I appreciate all answers but, you know, I want to keep my job!

[B00]

Perhaps she's a mortgage to pay for and would like to feed her children occasionaly koode?

With all due respect, your advice is just silly in the extreme, and luckily is being ignored by miacat.

[redcrx]

could you ask the colleague that lives near you for a lift tomorrow maybe?

perhaps you can car share over the winter or you may find that youll miss a lot of work days due to icy conditions.

[pastafreak]

I would imagine a job in a school is ideal for her,as it is compatible with her children's hours....or suits her as regards childcare. It's not easy for mums of school age kids to find work.

[society]

Miacat, my guess is - you are doing what you see is best and convenient for you in this situation.

[pastafreak]

Miacat never said she was unappreciated........if anything-her boss needs her. It was just worded in the wrong way! Besides-the boss is in the less than ideal position of having to make sure that he/she has a full workforce-or as near enough to it,as possible.

[nightmare]

Sometimes, it is simply a no-win situation.
Several years ago, I battled my way in to work (by car) through 18 miles of snow, about 10" deep.
OK, I got to work an hour late and was greeted with a surprised "What the Hell are you doing here ?"
Several colleagues, who lived within walking distance, had not bothered to come in.
You can imagine how popular I was when they discovered I had come to work and they consequently received a severe reprimand for not turning up that day.

[miacat]

Sorry I wasn't ignoring anyone I was just giving my kids lunch! Yes, it's an ideal job as I get all the holidays off with my boys and - as for the "colleague" who lives near me, she actually works in a different school and just happens to know my boss - I don't know her. The "village" I live in is actually a widespread area of farms and homesteads - this is why people can't understand when they hear someone from this area made it in - it bears no relevance to whether I can get in or not. Nightmare I love you answer! Poor you! Sometimes you just can't win........

[Suetheramble]

As someone who got to work by walking past 2 employees houses who didn't make it into work I was absolutely fuming! I know how annoying it is from the other side of the problem.

[miacat]

Fair point sue - how frustrating! Unfortunately there's no way I could walk to work. As it happens I STILL can't get in and my boss has subsequently apologised for being "off" with me yesterday - thanks for your comments and sorry your workmates are much cop! :)

[Suetheramble]

Maybe my name is a clue why I made it and they didn't!

[DTCwordfan]

anything you can do from home for them, mia, phone calls/e-mails etc etc.......'research' work? At least put this to your boss.....it shows that you are thinking of them.