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[sexymama2]

I dated a guy for 5yrs, 2mths to our wedding l caught him with a girl having sex.I told him its over, he pleaded n pleaded even my mum plead on his behalf n he promised nt to do it again ever. We got married barely 3mths after after d wedding he started having affairs, l did everything in my power to satisfy him sexually, make him happy n even sending love messages by text n letters, despite dat am aware he is cheating on me bt its all in vain,.in 2008 l gave birth to our daughter,l thot it will make him happy n he will stop since he is now a father bt l was wrong, he got worst, he starts bringing the ladies home when am nt around n take dem to our neighbour home wen l am home. As if that was nt enough, he don't take care of me or his daughter, he don't gives allowance nt even cash for home up keep, he is bossy n worst of all he starts taking vigra. My marriage will b 7yrs dis year n my daughter is 4yrs, l don't want her to grown up in a place like dis bc l get angry, upset, scare n disappointed. My family said l should forgv n stay wit him, how long will l do dat. My family said am leaving bc am beautiful n bc men r after me bt am tired of dis man called husband. Advice pls

[d9f1c7]

Leave him or be a door mat forever.

[Sqad]

Many successful marriages are based on the premise of the husband having mistresses and in countries like Greece and France it is accepted.

If you can accept this and if otherwise he is a good husband .......accept this.

If you cannot accept this status quo, then you must divorce.

Think about it before you "jump in"

[VHG]

>>>>2mths to our wedding l caught him with a girl having sex.

I am afraid you only have yourself to blame.

[ummmm]

Read it again Sqad. he's not a good husband.

[Kiki-frog]

Ask yourself, is he going to change? Ask yourself, are you being a good strong role model for your little girl?

[Sqad]

ummmm......good point.

My opinion remains the same.

[chaptazbru]

Why are you even asking - just go! Your family are not the ones married to him. Good luck.

[B00]

Many relationships can work if the affair was a one off and a mistake and both partners are sincere in wanting it to work.

But your husband sounds like a louse and one who seems incapable of keeping it in his pants.

Have you thought about using two housebricks on him?

And seriously- your neighbours aid and abet him in this? Nice!

[DTCwordfan]

Simple

Move on.

[Sqad]

DT.....not so simple.......where to?

[Smowball]

Thats terrible. Think that because you forgave him once, he knew that he would get away with it again and again. God knows why he got married!!

[DTCwordfan]

I didn't say "when", the decision is simple, move on. Might take some planning and in project management there is a thing called a timeline to enact the decisions.

[Sqad]

Folks .........don't get too "het up" as i think it is a windup.

[DTCwordfan]

Pourquoi, Monsieur le Sqad?

[Kiki-frog]

It really sounds like you have nothing to lose here. Is there somewherre else you and your daughter could go for a bit? Do you have a friend you could stay with? Just to give you a bit of time and space while you think what you can do next.

[shoota]

The language?????

[chaptazbru]

Sqad - that did cross my mind, but thought I'd get 'mobbed' if I said that, so went along with it instead - coward !!!

[Kiki-frog]

Oui, pourquoi? Et pourquoi en francais, DT?

[Baldric]

A brand spanking shiney new member with a big proplem, I know it can happen, but this often???

welcome to AB

[Baldric]

^^^proBlem^^^doh!!