Mistake

[Connemmara]

Does anybody think their mistake is far far far far worse than anybody's and why. I do have one big mistake along with tiny ones and I know I have to live with it the rest of my life and it is very hard.

[sherrardk]

Sorry to hear that, but it's done now (whatever it is), not much you can do about it really, x

[Paulsy]

I think we all make mistakes in life along the way, and as sherrard says once they're done there ain't much we can do about it but learn and move on and try not to do it again really. Don't be hard on yourself, I'm sure it can't be that bad compared to some whatever it is x

[EcclesCake]

It's better to regret what you haven't done than to regret what you have done.

[Mamyalynne]

Oh Conne, one of the hardest things we have to do is to accept we made an error - try to forgive yourself.

[Ann]

We all make mistakes Conne - I seem to remember you go to church, so just ask God to forgive you, and give you peace back in your life. Then move on ........ and try and forget your mistake and enjoy your life again. x

[NOX]

Yes mistakes I made hurt people, caused them pain, damaged them all to extents I can never make better, but I do try to make amends by being a nice person now, sticking up for the underdog, fighting people's causes who can't fight their own and in trying to live a good life. You can't go back, but you can learn from your mistakes. We all make them on some scale or another, but the best we can hope for is that we realise them, learn from them and do our best to make sure they never happen again either to us or to anyone we can advise in a similar circumstance. Don't beat yourself up Connemmara, people will have done far worse than you and be living with no consience of it at all in some cases, you have done what you can do and are thinking about it, time now to forgive yourself, move on and enjoy your life.

[Ann]

Very well said Nox .........

[Dee Sa]

nox you have said it all or us, thank you.

[boxtops]

well said NOX - we all make mistakes, but we learn from them, and know we won't do it again. We can't turn the clock back.

[Connemmara]

Thanks for your kind words.

[anneasquith]

good morning conn. i do wonder if you are being very hard on yourself.

[ummmm]

Is this the same mistake that was upsetting you a while back? If so, like Ann says, you're being very hard on yourself. It's time to forgive yourself and move on or you'll waste your life wrapped up in guilt and regrets.

[Connemmara]

I guess I am being hard on myself but the memory won't leave as I feel guilty

[Connemmara]

thanks annasquite and ummm

[bednobs]

oh conne, i know this is a flippant answer, but please tell us what it is :) i know last year you were worried about something illegal you had done and i assume you are talking about the same mistake here. i guess i could flannel you by telling you that we could all reassure you how little it is if you tell us what it is, but if i'm honest i'm just nosey as to what you think could be so bad that you beat yourself up over it for so long.
I completely agree with nox - time to forgive yourself now :)

[boxtops]

You have to forgive yourself for the mistake, connemmara, and move on - you won't forget, but you can't beat yourself up about it.

[Connemmara]

no bedknobs to talk about it on black and white would resurrect it even more and it was 2011 that's a long time to torture myself - I say to myself that everybody thinks I am such a lovely person and I say God they don't really know what the real macoy.

[RATTER15]

That is exactly how I feel NOX, I've screwed up big time in my past, I made many many mistakes, I also have learned to accept that the person and the mistakes I made back then has made me the person I am now, I can live with that, I'm quite happy with who I am now.

[bednobs]

ok conne, fair enough :)