Sorry, Pippa. "Ok ~ I shall take my daughter out and let her throw her teddy at the Spode... "means that you are allowing your daughter to commit criminal damage, as she is under your control. It would be as if you had thrown the teddy if you did not take steps to prevent the stuffed toy flinging episode.
So far as we know you might have trained the little one to perform these flings in an attempt to evade the consequences of actually flinging it yourself.
Of course, your daughter (presumably under he age of criminal responsibility) could fling with impunity if she somehow got free from your clutches and was no longer under your control. The shop could not say, even though you were negligent in losing your offspring, that you could have reasonably expected Spode smashing mayhem with teddy tantrums to be the natural result.