Stress and depression

[druiaghtagh]

I suffer from depression a lot , This year has been VERY stressful in an awful enviroment at work which has developed a hrd line disiplinary procedure. Following a minor incident friday morning i was put through a disciplinary procedure that isl likely to leed to possibilty of losing my job. I am in the process of thinking of early retirement if i lose this all my hpes and dreams come crashing down
I left off work and went to some woodland in my car and took a 100 co codamol over 2 hours. Saw sense and called ambulance. I have been out of hospital since last night. I dont have the words to tell my kids and doctor. What can i say? i need time off work, what di say to doc. Desperate times

[~Wingnut~]

Thank god you saw sense druiaghtagh! I'm sorry that you feel this way and so low that you almost took your own life. Remember your family will be feeling as desperate as you do know for answers of how can things get so bad that you felt like taking your own life. The best thing is to be very honest and open about it all, don't shut them out as they are hurting also. Get the help you need and no job is worth the stress, maybe it is time to leave as if this is what it does to you is it really worth it?
Please take care, big hug to you :o)

[dot.hawkes]

I am appalled at the level of stress you have endured for the sake of your job, no employer can be allowed to get away with creating so much distress in one person. There canbnot be any disciplinary action towards any member of staff without notice of intent and an initial investigatory informal interview.
You should get to your docs, take time off with company sick pay and use the time to look at what you can change in your life.
If early retirement is an option then look at the conseuences aS well as the advantages and do it because it is right for you, not because someone has tried to perform you out.
Contact your HR department and let them know you feel vistimised and bullied, trust me, they will not want to let it go any further.
Oh and don't be trying that stunt in the woods, think of the poor barsteward who has to find you walking his dog and the trauma to your family when the cop with no tact knocks on their door, you are worth more than a line in the paper mate.

[jno]

I second what has been said. Tell the doctor the full story. You don't have to tell your kids if you don't want to, though, parents are allowed to have secrets. Just tell them you had a bad stomach upset or something.

[rocklolo]

YOU FOOL and did not think of your family. But i can understand your despair. I have had a similar story about 1 week ago and walked from my job. within 1 hour of leaving i was employed by a local firm who knows me very well and yesterday offered a challenge to turn a small business around with a share of the profit.
I am less stress and refuse to let the rat race crush me down especially when i have worked so hard over 30 years with excellent references.
You have to review your life and ask yourself what do i want in life and go and get it.
NO MORE PARACETAMOL they are for pains not the emotionnal pains. talk here. xxxxx

[rocklolo]

Since you have been at the hospital your gp will be informed of your stay and will be put into the picture.
To protect your job , insure that you are getting some time off from work as you are not fit.take as long as you can.
Your firm can not touch you if you are diagnosed with depression!
Do not walk away, ask for legal advice now.
When it come to childrens, it will depend their age.
If they are young leave it but if they are grows up drop an hint ., You are feeling tired, fed up, with work or life and needs extra help at home.
There are plenty of jobs out there, just think of what you would like to do for yourself for a change xxxxxxx

[Panic Button]

If not in a union consider going to the Citizens Advice Bureaux about whether your employer is following the correct disciplinary procedures.

[lindapinda]

You've had some great advice here,druiaghtagh,and i can only go with that,and send you my best wishes and hugs. Sometimes,life is very hard to deal with.

[druiaghtagh]

Thankyou all for your answers and kindness. I have been signed off work for a month initially with doctor saying i will almost certainly need more. My union have instructed management to respect the privacy of myself and my family and not to contact me in anyway until i am ready and the occupational nurse at work is going to be the go between, she cannot divulge any confidences to my employers can she?
I am feeling dreadful as my doc has stopped my co codamoll that i have been addicted to for a number of years and also the stuff i take for anxiety in preparation for starting a new regime of Fluoxetine and i am sufferinf quite badlt in withdrawal. Not looking for sympathy here just that it helpe to get it all out into the open even if only to people i only know though AB
My kids and wife have been fantastic

[jno]

very glad to hear there's a bit of light at the end of the tunnel. Is there nothing your doc can give you to help you while you get over the cocodamols?

[jno]

I should add that two of my colleagues are currently off work for nervous depression (great workplace, obviously) - they have been away since before Christmas and aren't due back any time soon. So make sure you stay home just as long as it takes; it could be months, if that's what you need.

[pussnboots]

So glad that you are getting some practical help and support. A friend of my sons is going through the same sort of stress that you have at the moment ie job, family, heavy drinking and generally feeling that there is nothing left for him. He is getting the help he needs now and hopefully he will come through. There isn't a lot us here in cyberspace can say that you probably haven't already heard, but I wish you all the best, just try to remember that we are only on this earth once, and in the great scheme of things nothing really matters very much. So what if you have no job, no money you have your children, they need their dad, better to be jobless, skint and alive.

[Aprilis]

Just wanna send you a big ((((hug)))) druiaghtgh. xxx

[~Wingnut~]

Thanx for replying druiaghtagh (was thinking about yer last night wondering how you were), glad to hear that you are getting the time you need to try to sort this out, you have taken a step in the right direction and you can get through this one day at a time :o)

All the best xx

[druiaghtagh]

Hi all, been off my long term meds, co codamol 30/500 and clomipramine been on both for 10 years, hence addiction to co cod. awful
week with bad , agitation stomach upsets constantly cold withdrawal symptons, temporary sleeping pi;lls not realy working Self inflicted some might say but the dreadful year i suffered up to this took its toll including a deep secret ifrom my childhood was finally able to let out after some short term counselling to coucellor and my wife
I realise others including family and friends are hurting too, my fault end of tunnel light seems way off yet

[jno]

don't go thinking of 'fault'; you sound as if you're suffering more than any of them. The cold turkey must be hell. But you're off work now? Try not to worry about the sleep; just sleep when you feel like it and if you wake during the night and can't drop off again, just read or watch a video. (I'm a shift worker and I haven't had a proper sleep pattern for 30 years.) Try to share family and household responsibilities around. If you had a broken leg you wouldn't be expected to mow the lawn and paint the roof. Same here: you're ill, you need time to recover, and it'll take as long as it takes.

I'm glad counselling seems to be helping too. I don't know what the secret was but if it's been buried that long it will take quite a while before you fully come to terms with it. Again, don't feel you have to rush things. It's your life; relax, take good care of it. Good luck.

[druiaghtagh]

Thankyou alll, its helpful to share this stuff.jno youre right, cold turkey is one of hardest things ive ever done also in same situation as you , must be 30 years also shift working, sleeping, eating never at proper time

[Segilla]

My experience,for what it's worth.

It goes back many, many years but I bought an old car and immersed myself in fixing it. It took over my life and banished my acute depression.
So try to find a topic that you can involve yourself in that will preoccupy your thoughts, instead of worrying about yourself.

Study beetles; look into your family history; clouds; read old newspapers online - anything, preferably something you know little about - but don't neglect your family.