Beind fair to step children when writing a will

[bagpuss1956]

My wife and I have been married for 6 years. I have two children from a previous marage and my wife three. I am about to make a will and cannot decide what is the right thing to do. The home we have now is paid for by me as are all the bills. What money my wife does earn is spent entirely on her and her children. Her children do not see me as a parent and if my wife died first, I am sure would have no contact with me at all.
My question is, when I make a will should I give more to my daughters, or share equally between all?

[888sally888]

I would leave half each to your own children for sure.

[MORELLO]

The lot to your own. Sounds wrong but it isn't. I've got a stepson who has regular contact and outings with his dad. I've got a baby son of my own. Sorry, but if anything happens to me, any assets of mine go to my son. Love my stepson as I do, as his dad is in his life regularly, he must look to his dad for any inheritance.

[MORELLO]

...especially if your not even seen as a parent by your wife's children...

[lilteddybear]

hi there i'm a step-child myself.
i'm the only child my mam has n my step-dad has 2 children from a previous marrage i'm 15 and his oldest son is 16 and his youngest daughter 14. my step-dad see's me more of his own child but i think this is because his own children dont reali want to know him. hi has put in his will more for me and less for his own children i think this is unfair but he thinks its right as they don't seem to acknowledge him. i think go wit ur heart but id say give it to your own children fair is fair.

best of luck with it all.

[treborrobert]

right i will get right to the point ... its upto to you ...you know in your heart who you are close to and who has been there for you ....
someone who has no contact only on death ...are money grabbers to me ... they were not there in life so why are they there in death ....son / daughter i dont care ...its who is there for you in good and bad...and not in birth right ....leave a will and make sure you state it carnt be changed in anyway way.......would love to see there faces if you writen above in your will... lol lol ...

dont let anyone chance your mind its your final request !!

[treborrobert]

as for you lilteddybear ..i can see in your letter just why he has picket you over his own.....as above you fall into what i mean......they dont want anything to do with him then they have no rights in death...
if he wishes to leave you more ...DO NOT . go against his wishes its his wishes not yours .....

you are to soft... in the future you will make problems for yourself as in... his kids will contest the will and you will probly go along with it and give in ....... i say how dare you go against your step fathers wishes he sees you as more of a son daughter than his own ... its his money ..not yours or his kids ...

if you love him ...as he loves you and your sister... you have to respect his request... and stop thinking of others...you are 16 you have a lot to lurn young man... first law is respect !!

show this letter to your step father he will understand what i mean ....and i hope he makes it clear in his will... no contest of will....for your s and your sisters sake

[treborrobert]

sorry you are only child and he has son and daughter ....

then nothing changes he pickt you ok

[lilteddybear]

iam his step daughter u got my story the wrong way round.

my step dads own kids want nothing to do with him and treats me equally to them but as for his will he has left it to me his step-daughter. and not his own kids i think this is wrong and shuld give them more than he's givin me in his will. but if it his wishes i will respect them.

[treborrobert]

so if his own children dont want anything to do with him ... why do they have the right to his will ????

if they treat you just like one of the family (equarly }.. and dont want anything to do with there father how can they claim they have rights to his will ???
if my kids told me they didnt want anything to do with me ... that would end it for me ...they dont want anything to do with me so i dont want anything to do with them in life or death

to treat a father like that is unfair...but its ok to have his money in death...HOW DARE THEM !!!...

its nothing short of money grabbing.....scum !!!

[treborrobert]

bagpuss1956 ..you leave it all ...to your own children ...your wife clearly looks after her own children so you should look after yours

so i say leave it all to your own children .....i am sure her will will be to her children not yours ????

AFTER ALL YOU ARE NOTHING TO HER KIDS ARE YOU ...IN THERE EYES

[bagpuss1956]

Thanks for the replies, still not sure what to do though, I know my wife expects there to be an equal split.

[treborrobert]

well its easy ...as your wife put your kids in her will.... or just her own ? LOOK at ther bigger picture...and what make you think you will go first ?

and as you said she has payed nothing to your home !

and all the money she has she keeps herself !

so i take it when you go ...your kids will get nothing comes to mind !!!!...look after your own comes to mind !

DO I REALY HAVE TO SPELL IT OUT ??????

bagpuss1956.. this is the one and only thing you have to get right .......
for your kids sake dont...let them loose you ...and there share of your life time of hard work...that your wife was only apart of for 6 years....

they are your kids in life and death...do the right thing..

i personaly think 70% to your kids ...the other 30% devived between your wife and her kids....

[treborrobert]

if you do not do a will ... your kids get nothing at all...wife gets everything...END OFF....