will social services take our child away?

[percysc]

Our child is under child protection under emotional neglect. There is domestic violence in our relationship from time to time from both sides. Social said anymore police call outs etc they would make us split or start court procedings! Our child is nearly 3 never been hurt by any of us we love her very much, will the courts order that she goes into care or are they scaring us????

[jackthehat]

Personally, I hope that if you are continuing your relationship with your partner along exactly the same lines as those which you have been warned, then your child is taken away with all haste.................

If you don't love her enough to change your ways, then she deserves to be taken to a place of safety..........

[Goodsoulette]

I split with my extremely abusive partner when my eldest son was 5 and my youngest son was one. The damage to both of them is still evident, yet he never lay a finger on either of them. My eldest son, ground his milk teeth away with worry and frequently wet the bed if he saw his dad, or was faced with any kind of confrontation. You need some relationship counselling or split, and keep it amicable. Two years on from our break up and things are just about coming together for me and my children but thats because they haven;t had to deal with their father and the way he treats me in front of them since may.

Social services can intervene and have your child put into care if you continue to put him in this situation.

[sara3]

you say she has never been hurt by you but, "emotional neglect"? do you not see this as hurt? you have made your child suffer and will continue to damage your child if she has to live under the same roof as you and your partner and this behaviour.

if you love her so much, change your ways or accept the fact that the majority of people would agree that your daughter might just be better away from you.

I hope you are scared. you deserve to be.

[cassa333]

Put your daughter first.

You say you love your daughter but not enough to see the obvious stareing you in the face.

If you need other people to tell you how you should act then you don't deserve to make the descisions on your own and need the intervention of the social services. Wether they can take her into care or not is imaterial. The fact they have said it should be enough for you to look at what you are doing and change.

[pinktwink]

this is no scare and if you loved your daughter you would leave your partner until yee can bothrelate more adultlike. The fact police are being called suggests physical violence. Have you thought what it is like for your daughter to witness or hear the people she loves fight. It is quite easy she will get injured accidentally. If you seriously love your daughter yee will get couple counselling, anger management or split.
In the meantime it may be worth seeking the support of family as they could act as carers should your child need to come into care

[jguile]

They are not trying to scare you, they only have the best interests of the child. I have no doubt that you love your daughter as you are seeking advice. However as others have written prior to me, you are damaging your daughter emotionally. you may think she does not hear or see these incidents but children have very good intuition and pick up on many things for example a mother cannot calm her child down if she herself is agitated. also you have to remember she will continue this cycle as she gets older and do you really want your child to be in this situation? get professional anger management help for both of you, at least if it does go to court you will show that you want to change the situation.

[Martiens]

You should really follow the advice of the people that replied so far. If not, your daughter will probably be romoved which will hurt her too, but will obviously be the best for her. You and your partner should rather split if you cannot act responsibly or maybe you two can go and do some service as a bullet-stop in Irak...