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hi all, im 32 weeks pregnant with my first baby, and have been signed off work since middle of march due to health reasons (keep fainting nearly everyday, so am unable to drive)
im started to feel really down, whe i told my friends i was pregnant they were over the moon, saying they would organise showers etc, and my work friends started banging on about collections and leaving meals etc
but now i have actually left work no one seems to bother about me, i keep inviting people round but they make ecuses, i cant drive so cannot go to them.
i just feel so lonely
a friend from work died 2 weeks ago and no one even bothered to let me know, i found out the day after her funeral on facebook. i cant stop crying, i just feel like no one cares about me.
it winds me up but over the last 4 years in the company i have lost ount at the sickness and maternity collections i have put into but no one has even bothered to come and see me never mind chuck an envelope round the office.
im sorry if this sounds selfsih but im sure any mum to be in my situation would feel the same.
not really sure why im writing this cos im not asking a question, i just need to vent :(
im started to feel really down, whe i told my friends i was pregnant they were over the moon, saying they would organise showers etc, and my work friends started banging on about collections and leaving meals etc
but now i have actually left work no one seems to bother about me, i keep inviting people round but they make ecuses, i cant drive so cannot go to them.
i just feel so lonely
a friend from work died 2 weeks ago and no one even bothered to let me know, i found out the day after her funeral on facebook. i cant stop crying, i just feel like no one cares about me.
it winds me up but over the last 4 years in the company i have lost ount at the sickness and maternity collections i have put into but no one has even bothered to come and see me never mind chuck an envelope round the office.
im sorry if this sounds selfsih but im sure any mum to be in my situation would feel the same.
not really sure why im writing this cos im not asking a question, i just need to vent :(
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.I'm sure they do still all care for you. It is a bit harsh them not telling you about your friend. But also they all have their own lives to live too. Maybe you are feeling over emotional at the moment and I'm sure you will get lots of visits, presents etc when baby is born. You dont know they may not be coming round because they want you to rest as you should be doing.
Your hormones go a bit bonkers when you're pregnant (good medical term!) so everything may feel a bit magnified and peculiar. I do understand that you feel a bit neglected and lonely - can you get out by public transport? It's possible your colleagues didn't tell you about the friend who died because of concerns that you'd be so upset, it could affect your health. You never know, they might be planning the collection and party stuff secretly. Best of luck, and focus on looking forward to your bundle of joy.
I felt the same as you when I had my first baby. I was in a job where they basically wanted me to leave cos I was pregnant, I left at the first available opportunity! which left me everyday from 30 weeks at home on my own. It is lonely, I can really sympathise with you. If you have family you can talk to - then really try cos they will try to help you. dont worry about work friends, they come & go, its your family & close friends that can help you. if you really, really, feel bad then go to your doctor - they can help too.x