Whats Going On Are Falling In Love Should I Follow My Heart Continue And See Were This Takes Me Or Is It A Bad Idea?

[bueatful_soul]

Well i've known this guy for about 17 years he is a bit older than me we did not talk to each other alot but last year he messaged me and told me he had feelings for me and he thought i was beautiful he said he felt this way sence the first time we met he could not make these feelings go away so he desided to tell me and i usely dont talk to guys i tell them to get lost but not him for some reason. Well we started talking i got this instence conection with him and before you new it we got lost in conversation and hours went by i got to thinking after our talk he probley wants sex that is all he is after so i was going to tell him when he messages me again to not message me no more i know whats going on but when he messaged me again i did not tell him we got to talking again and before you knew it hours have gone by and he had to go well we kept talking and told me how beautiful i am and how he bets ia even more beautiful with out cloths and he told me i turn him on well i thought now i know he just wants sex so wone day i messaged him wond day and ask him so the reason why your talking to me is only bacouse you only wont sex from me he said well yes you are verry beautiful and yes you turn me on but no that is not al there is your a kind caring and loving and i like all of you your mind body heart and soul and you put others before yourself and your personalty and that is what i like about the most your inner beauty surpasses your outer beauty
We get lost in conversation and before we know it the day has gone we just enjoy each others company he ask me the other day did i ever think somthing this would happen well i did not i always tell guys to get lost out of fear o geting hurt again but not this time he as helped me to see that not all guys are jurks and and not all of them are out to hurt you and they can be sweet kind caring and loving to he brings up feelings and emotions i never felt before.
well i ask him the same thing and he told me no he did not expect any of this eather he said things did not go how he invisioned them but he said he is very pleased he followed his heart and got to know me he said he could'nt of dreamed this up in his wildest dreams that all this is overwhelming and words cannot discribe but he said he has disregarded what he invisioned and dreamed how things would go and take things as they come. we both feel we connect on many diffrent levels to.

[Mamyalynne]

Yes, take it as it comes.

[kvalidir]

Great- nothing is wrong. 'If its not broke, dont fix it'.

[grasscarp]

All this is difficult to read without much punctuation. If you are both happy not sure what you want us to say.

[Canary42]

Have you tried Mills & Boon

[Brinjal]

You only live once. Take things dY by day and have some fun.

[Old_Geezer]

It is an unusual guy who would not want sex with someone they feel emotional about. Doesn't mean that is all they are after. After all, assume that and you never get into a relationship. One has to take a chance, come out of one's comfort zone, and live a little. But you go at a pace you can cope with.

Difficult though that can be, it's far easier than having to be the one who admits to feelings first. That's a much larger risk of getting hurt, especially if, like I was, one is daft (aka shy) enough to not move early on but spend ages trying to find the bottle to say something.

You might let him know that he seems to be laying the "you're beautiful" thing on a bit thick, unless you like that of course.

As folk have said, let it progress at your own pace. Either it'll last, or it'll end and you can be happy for the time it was there and you enjoyed the companionship.

[whirlyhurly]

He sounds rather a "silver tongued" smoothie.

[bueatful_soul]

what does that mean a silver tongued smoothie

[Mamyalynne]

I'lllet Whirly answer that in their words.


If you have known this man for 17 tears, you were either very young when you met or you are now a mature young woman. Either way the transition from acquaintance to a more romantic twosome is not easy. Just be happy in each others company and see how things progress.

[whistonian]

For heavens sake tell him you are ready to be wined and dined etc,and book the best hotel in town.

[bueatful_soul]

well i was kind of young 21 when we met he was in early 40's well please don't judge i belive age don't matter as long as you love eacher and the person treates you right well i am not into all of that wined and dined and hotel stuff my idea of a perfict night is at the creek sitting in the be of a pickup truck hanging out and talking i am a symple girl i dont need fancy meals hotels and expcive things.

[grasscarp]

You are now nearly 40 and he 60. You should be able to judge for yourself by now what you want.

[Sqad]

\\\\ i got to thinking after our talk he probley wants sex that is all he is after\\\

Got it in one.

If you want the same and follow the good advice of whitsonian above 17.20.

Enjoy yourself.

[grasscarp]

No sqad she wants to be by the creek in a pickup truck. May not be in Uk.

[Sqad]

grassy...Oh! Just count me out then............not my scene.

[tonyav]

Well I hope that pick up truck is a Dodge, nothing more romantic than the rumble of an hemi V8 engine.

[Sqad]

tony......I just love it when you talk dirty.

[tonyav]

LOL, It's all that petrol and oil isn't it sqad.