Violent Ex Partner Charged With Gbh

[squidgirl]

I reported my ex partner for violence 2 weeks ago. He has been violent to me for 8 years. He basically punched me in my head and pushed me so hard i smacked my head on the corner of the door frame which rendered me unconscious for a few seconds . He also threatened to smash my face in me via Facebook 4 days ago and ive sent the screen shot to the police. I also described to my friend back in January in a facebook conversation him hitting and punching me in the head where my nose bled And i also emailed that conversation over. The thing is i habe no evidence of the crack to my head via the door frame as i did not go to hospital or take photos so its my wird againsy his . I finally left as i have a 5 month old daughter and enough was enough . He is good with her however i dont know wats going to happen now . He only has one other theft offence no dv related stuff. Does anyone think hell be charged? He was arrested for gbh yesterday and was released on bail.

[EDDIE51]

You have to go to the police and make a formal complaint against him.
Tell them everything, do not worry about 'my word against his', many complaints are like that. He has been arrested for GBH so there is confimation of his violence. Report this to the police, if possible the same police station that charged him with GBH. If that is not possible make sure the police you talk to are aware that he has a GBH prosecution pending.
You need to get an injunction against him so that he can not contact you, the police will help with that.

[EDDIE51]

Click on this link and phone the number it is free
http://www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk/

[New Judge]

I may be reading it wrongly, Eddie, but i think that it is the allegation that squidgirl made to the police that has led to the arrest of her ex. (Your answer gives me the impression that you believe it is another, unrelated incident for which he has been arrested). Also it seems he has not yet been charged with anything but simply released on police bail pending further enquiries.

If this is the case (and perhaps squidgirl could confirm) her main concern is to keep him away from her and the child and she should contact the police to see if any conditions have been attached to his bail.

[EDDIE51]

NJ ,I see that the GBH charge is seperate but I thought this event should be added to the GBH as more evidence of violence. Possibly that is wrong but surely the police who arrsted him for GBH need to be aware of this incident ?

[New Judge]

Sorry, Eddie, but I'm obviously not making myself very clear.

I believe that squidgirl's ex has been arrested on suspicion of gbh and that the incident for which he was arrested is the one that she describes. In other words his arrest was the police's response to her complaint. I believe he has not been arrested on suspicion of another gbh incident but there was only the one, where he allegedly attacked her.

We really need an response from squidgirl.

[squidgirl]

Sorry i didnt clarify, i reported him for him attacking me and he attended the police station yesterday where he was arrested for gbh for the attack on me. He is on bail until may. He has told the officers that it was ME that was always violent towards HIM. Ive never hit him , only to degend myself. Im petrified about going to court as its his word against mine and the only evidence i have is messages i sent my friend back in January complaining about his violence toward me and a threatning message he sent me the other day. We was arguing over Facebook abd called each other bad names however ive never threatned him. ipolicei just dont know wat to do noww

[EDDIE51]

sorry I misunderstood, but the advice is the same, phone that helpline number I gave at 14.02 yesterday. They will give you a lot of help.
DO NOT worry about it only your word , most cases are like that, but you also have the facebook page as evidence which will support what you said.

[lcg]

from now on ignore him completely and report all threatening content to the police immediately. the helpline eddie provided is a useful one and i have referred many people to it myself. as for the issue of access to his daughter and whether you can stop him seeing her because he hit you, you will have to seek advice from a solicitor about that one and potentially think about a restraining order - especially if he continues to threaten and abuse you (even the verbal stuff). just DO NOT say or do anything he can use against you and do not admit to hitting him, even in self defence. say yoou pushed him away instead.