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Son Was Sent To Prison Today : (
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It was sons revised court date today. As soon as we met the solicitor he said I've got bad news- it's not a panel of three as usual sitting the case - it's a district judge and this one is an absolute b@@@ard. So he then asks me if I'd like to take the stand and say a few words as it may be the only thing that may sway the judge. Ok I said. Anyway we go in- solicitor was lovely and said how son now had a full time job, how he had got himself a mental health referral and had done everything possible to help himself.
I then took the stand, swore my oath on the bible and did the same. I was asked what did I think would happen should he be sent to prison and I said it would be the worst possible thing as he would be right back to the beginning, he'd lose his job, he'd miss his mental health referral and he'd have to start all over again.
But judge had clearly made his mind up before we even started, as he asked son to stand up, then sentenced him to 8 months, and said he would serve half, so four months. I had to see his face just crumple, then two officers handcuffed him and just led him away. I burst into tears on the spot.
So he will be locked up for his birthday this weekend, and for Xmas... and I can't his shocked face out of my mind. I didn't even get a chance to say anything to him : (
I then took the stand, swore my oath on the bible and did the same. I was asked what did I think would happen should he be sent to prison and I said it would be the worst possible thing as he would be right back to the beginning, he'd lose his job, he'd miss his mental health referral and he'd have to start all over again.
But judge had clearly made his mind up before we even started, as he asked son to stand up, then sentenced him to 8 months, and said he would serve half, so four months. I had to see his face just crumple, then two officers handcuffed him and just led him away. I burst into tears on the spot.
So he will be locked up for his birthday this weekend, and for Xmas... and I can't his shocked face out of my mind. I didn't even get a chance to say anything to him : (
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Don't think so. Even the solicitor was shocked. Why on earth would you lock up someone who has already been on suicide watch and who has some form of mental health problem?? He now won't have any of his medication till they've got the ok from his doctor, which is normally 5 days and so it will be completely out of his system by then!! Am so upset and angry.
I'm so sorry that all the extenuating circs. weren't enough. You must be feeling dire and aching for the babe you had.
Well, it's happened and right now you are in shock. In a day or two you may be able to think about how to limit the damage. If he's done his job well then his employer may be able to overlook this, or at least give him a good reference. Some firms reach out to people who have been in prison (Timpson's for instance). The Mental Health referral can also be sorted out - but not now.
I am so very sorry that this situation has hit you. Right now, be kind to yourself so you can tackle it. x
Well, it's happened and right now you are in shock. In a day or two you may be able to think about how to limit the damage. If he's done his job well then his employer may be able to overlook this, or at least give him a good reference. Some firms reach out to people who have been in prison (Timpson's for instance). The Mental Health referral can also be sorted out - but not now.
I am so very sorry that this situation has hit you. Right now, be kind to yourself so you can tackle it. x
Oh Smowball, that must have been terrible for you....I can't possibly imagine how you are feeling at the moment, but hopefully, in time, you'll come to except it, and just think, you will have him back in only four months time, my lovely.....will go quickly.
Please accept my sincere best wishes to you and your family, Smow and I'm sure the good people on this site will always be around, night and day, if you want to chat about anything at all.......Take care, all my love Yogi xxx
Please accept my sincere best wishes to you and your family, Smow and I'm sure the good people on this site will always be around, night and day, if you want to chat about anything at all.......Take care, all my love Yogi xxx