is it confidential

[trebor1998]

i recently did a crb check for social services as my partners mum( i am not married to her though, ) fosters kids i got into trouble 11 years ago and got charged with urder then it went down to occassioning actual bodily harm, then i was with a ex girlfriend who told me to slap her son which i did then she got the police on to me i got 2 years probabtion was not told that i cannot go near kids i only did 3 months probation but her ums social worker thinks her mum needs to know which will upset us i dont go to her mums and my partner has said that if she has the kids she would go to her mums i think i have a right if they tell her or not surly

[CheekyChops]

I may have the wrong end of the stick here as your post is very difficult to read and understand due to the complete lack of full stops but...

Are you saying you were charged with murder which went down to occassioning bodily harm? If so, I assume her son died?

Either way, if your ex girlfriend told you to jump off a bridge, would you do it? No, you wouldn't. So why slap her son just because someone told you to. Anyway, back to the actual question.

I realise that you may have made a big mistake and could have changed in the 11 years since, but if my daughters boyfriend had been accused of murder or had been done for hitting children and I was a foster carer, then I would want to know. You gave away your rights when you got done for hitting the other child. If you truly are a reformed character and her mum likes and trusts you, you should have no problems.

[Peter Pedant]

Cheeky Chops you are behind with your reading

'So why slap her son just because someone told you to. Anyway, ........'

unfortunately the books and journals are full of articles and papers where this very thing is done
Usually it is an 'experiment' where the controller tells the subject to 'punish' another subject if he gets an answer wrong. IT is used to explain acquiescence in the holocaust......

You must have been a position where your parents told you to do something you knew was iffy, and you took a deep breath and....

[bananie]

if you mean you have to have a disclosure done, then if it involves children it will be an enhanced disclosure and any offences that you have been convicted for will show up on it. You have to come clean about it, especially where the offences involve children as this will effect your partner's mother if she is fostering children. you really should tell her as the effects could be extremely serious for her as a foster parent if you don't.

[CheekyChops]

Peter Pedant, I have no idea what you are talking about.

I haven't read anything. I am saying what I personally think.

[Ice.Maiden]

I can't quite follow your post, trebor, and I'm not here to judge you, but if you're slapping children about and got 2 year's probation for it, then I'm sorry, but everyone close to you who has a child should be told about your past. I wouldn't want you near mine.

[trebor1998]

just to clarify something this girl asked e to then when i did it she told e to get out even her family said thats what she was like then after the court case she wanted me back no i dont go round slapping kids it was one mistake which i have paid for

[clare_1]

Not only have you scared and hurt a child but may go on to deprive foster kids of a good home as you will be classed as unsuitable to be around vulnerable children. I hope you are ashamed of yourself.

And by the way I wouldnt go around asking nice people for advice in forums about ABUSING a child. Yes thats what it is.