help daughter boyfriend on drugs he's destroying her life

[BigRooster]

Daughters boyfriend is ruining her life but she can't see it
Sad git is using drugs and as he don't work is using her money .Most weeks she's pennyless all her friends and even his family know and have warned her but she's blined to what he's doing.
I've tryed to talk but she's not interested she well end up with nothing or worse with him.
I need to git him out of her life thinking of going to the police to see what they can do but worried I could loose her. I need advice please may be from someone who's been there.
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[anneasquith]

i have not been there, how old is your daughter, and does she have children ?

[boxtops]

Is he stealing her money, or does she give it to him?

[BigRooster]

She is 23 no children and as for money I'm sure he's asking and she hands it over ... She can't see that being on drugs he will take everything she has . She just can't see what he's doing .Im tempted to grass him to the police but if she thinks its us it might push her away .

[brenda]

BigR ---- I have been in the same scenario , but the otherway round . My son and a girl on drugs.The police were not able to help-- she was using but not dealing.I tried reason with my son , shouting , crying all to no avail.
So I decided to operate on a charm offensive. I made her welcome in my home , having made sure that anything of value was locked away before she came.I provided meals which she wouldn't eat,washing and bathing facilities which she did use.
I would not allow her to stay over in my house because I felt I couldn't keep watching her 24/7.
So they came and went as they felt.
It was very difficult indeed for me to have a pasted on smile and friendly greeting all the time.
Eventually my son asked me for money for her to get drugs -- and I refused. He lost his temper and left.
The next day he returned , in a right state , having been beaten up by her brother.
All this was reported to the police ,who were sympathetic, that was it.
Time went by -- over a year or more and gradually my son began staying at our home for longer periods.
I asked no questions --although I wanted to do.
My home was burgled twice , and vandalised once in the intervening year.K

[brenda]

Part 2-- knew it was her and her friends -- but no proof.My son never spoke of her , and I didn't know if he was still seeing her .About 2 years now in total he brought home another girl- a nice lassie , they are married now and have a child.We have never talked about the first girl ever ,no need -- am just pleased that I was able to support my son in a situation that was totally horrendous.
That is all you can do Big R -- be supportive.Best of luck.

[BigRooster]

Thanks guys its just hard to watch . I as far a know she not touched any drugs
It just hurts knowing he's taking advantage of her soft side and she can't see it.. Times like these when i wish i didn't care but Christ it hurts. Almost if your dammed if u do dammed if you don't
..Sugar world sometimes