Want to stop a person setting foot on my property how ?

[Thunderchild]

My sister and myself own a house which our father lives in. He has a "girlfriend" who sold her house to move in with her parents only to have a row with her mother (who is going a little insane) and be thrown out by the police. My father very stupidly allowed her to go and live with him. Although they are in a relationship living together is out of the question and as predicted they have done nothing but argue and the final straw came when my sister went over last night and she basically wouldn't let him talk to her. My sister arrived at my house on the verge of an asma (sorry can't spell that one right) attack and if it weren't for the fact that I have an electronic medical device in the house that can help deal with such matters instead of calling my father 10 minutes later to tell him to get some damn back bone I'd have been dialing 999 and getting my sister to hospital.

The woman is supposed to be moving into a place tomorrow (whether that materializes or not is another matter). She has so far despite given £6'000 away to her daughters and spent £1'000 on a new hearing aid she didn't really need as her NHS one was fine has point blank refused to pay for her keep but has been treating our house like her own, (bossing my sister around).

I want this person out and never to return as enough is enough. If my dad really wants to see her he can go and see her. I do not want her on the property again once she leaves and if her new place mysteriously falls through I still want her OUT !

Is there something my sister and myself can get like a restraining order to stop her coming to the property again ?

[hc4361]

Good grief.
Would you be happy if your father obeyed your wishes and you never got to see him because he's always at her home?
You keep banging on about your 'property'. It's your dad's home and you have no right to interfere in his private life.
If you want to keep relations good between all of you, bite your tongue and be pleasant. Don't let her upset you.
To be frank you sound like a stroppy, selfish teenager and it's time you grew up.

[Thunderchild]

no boxtop it is just so sad i wasted 2 years of my life for what was supposed to be his happiness. I could have been back in this country furthering my education and getting a better shot in life.

New information. My sister has spoken to him and finally got out of him that "the woman" broke the phone to stop him calling the police. He has not been having a good time at all he admits !

[Thunderchild]

HC4361

Like I said I can't put all of my family history and 5 years of this woman into a few lines.

[lotsafun]

from what you have said she sounds like a bully and a control freak and your right to be upset and concerned for you father, sounds a bit like domestic abuse. However your father has CHOSEN to be with her and unfortunatley there is nothing you can do about it. I understand this must be so frustrating for you, but the more you tell him how to live his life the more you will push him a way futher into her arms. Stop the squabbling and just be there for your father, he will tell her top leave when hes ready to and thats it, theres nothing else you can do, just be there for your dad, and stand your ground to her, dont let her push you out otherwise she has won. She may be able to walk all over your father but make a point that she cant walk all over you. Stand together as a family.

[daffy654]

If this woman is abusing your elderly (?) father to the point that she broke the telephone to prevent him calling for help then someone needs to speak to a solicitor or police officer about the situation, if only for the correct advice about what, if anything, can be done.

[Thunderchild]

I think he'll happily let us bare her from the house he has had enough but as he is stuck with living with her for the time being or having a massive row and has been trying to keep a lid on it. Unfortunately she is just like a spoilt brat and just wants to keep taking, time to draw the line.

[Thunderchild]

unfortunately daffy I don't know all of the ins and outs so can't but monday we are having a restraining order put in place to take effect on tuesday (if thats possible), I will go round tonight and tell her that if when I go over on tuesday I find her still there i will throw her and any of her belongings left in the house out, with a police presence if need be.

[Thunderchild]

he is 61 and has a back problem and arthritis she is 49 so yea elderly might be the right way of putting it. She is certainly physically stronger than him.

[sara3]

my dad died when I was 5 years old.

do try to keep things in perspective.

[boxtops]

If a massive row is what it takes then have it - it doesn't sound as if she will listen to hints. How old is your dad, btw?

[factor-fiction]

Speak to your dad and say either she goes or you go. If he wants her to stay and you don't like it then you should move out.

[Thunderchild]

yes Sarah I understand, I have stuck by my dad through thick and thin when he had trouble with my mother. I can't really say I had any "teenage" life as I spent most of it acting as his secretary and trying to keep him sane while we lived in a foreign country.

That is what makes me so angry now that it was all sorted, he was back on his own in his own home he ends up with this woman and we go back to square one !

Yes box tops it will take an earthquake of a row to get her to understand that she IS out which I'll be dishing out tonight, then she can have her qualms with me and not him. The relationship was always a bit rocky but now it has gone way too far.

[Thunderchild]

no redhelen your missing it completely, he can hardly survive on what he does have, like I said to him yesterday I will end up having to help him out (and won't be a first) and I can only just cope as it is. The woman should at least be paying her bit. in fact stroppy teenager is a good description of her.

[boxtops]

I have just seen how old your father is - he's younger than me, still of an age to make his own decisions and to arrange his own private life, unless he has mental capacity problems (which doesn't sound like it). That puts a slightl different perspective on it for me.

[sara3]

maybe you should sell the house, and split the proceeds.. then you might all be happy?

[Thunderchild]

No Sara that won't make me happy. He is the one that needs to be happy. As I just said. He does not want a row, she IS making life hell (of his own admission) and if he makes a fuss it just makes her worse. I think he is actually relieved that we are dealing with it. if her new house falls through at the last minute it will be a living hell. In which case she is still out. enough is enough.

No he is not terribly old, although he does have physical problems, it was someone else that suggested he may be elderly but it seems most people are not entirely reading this discussion before replying

[Thunderchild]

eddie51, yes he has a mobile, obviously did not think to use it to call the police, and he lied to me about how it was ruined which is not good. He told me he found it full of water, now he admits she damaged it there and then so that he could not call the police. He already has to lock away anything he does not want to loose infact it has made him very paranoid.

whatever you lot think I know the situation and know the people involved thank you. I came here for advice on what is available in LAW not opinions on my motives thanks