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Breast Feeding At A Private Venue
I understand most of the breast feeding legislation (Breastfeeding etc. (Scotland) Act 2005) but Subject to section 1 subsection (2), it is an offence deliberately to prevent or stop a person in charge of a child from feeding milk to that child in a public place or on licensed premises.
However for me the definition of Public Place and Licensed premises, does not cover a private function such as a wedding. So my question is - is it still against the law to ask an individual to to stop breast feeding in public sight at a private event. I.E the top table of a wedding
Is their any case law on this ?
However for me the definition of Public Place and Licensed premises, does not cover a private function such as a wedding. So my question is - is it still against the law to ask an individual to to stop breast feeding in public sight at a private event. I.E the top table of a wedding
Is their any case law on this ?
Answers
It's not against the law to ASK someone to cease breast feeding ANYWHERE in Scotland, even in a public place or on licensed premises. It's only against the law to REQUIRE them to do so (or to otherwise prevent them). Elsewhere those who are responsible for running the premises are free to make their own rules (as private individuals are in their own homes) but,...
23:25 Mon 28th Jan 2013
Will she have this baby clinging on during the actual wedding ceremony too ?
As a bridesmaid she's going to have to hand it over to someone when she follows the happy bride down the aisle .
Can't someone just hold the baby while they take the pics and then she can nip off if the baby starts yelling .
She sounds very selfish to me .
As a bridesmaid she's going to have to hand it over to someone when she follows the happy bride down the aisle .
Can't someone just hold the baby while they take the pics and then she can nip off if the baby starts yelling .
She sounds very selfish to me .
She is older and married too. It is all about the "what if" question. Her reply being its terrible that she should have to move because she may need to breast feed saying its not fair, even tho we are coming from the view we complete support breast feeding and i dont believe any of our guess would have a problem with it. But i am paying £20000 for this to be all eyes on my our half not for it to be spoilt during the speech by everyone looking at the bridesmaid instead all ettention being on the bride for 15-30 mins tops.
Right, she's clearly more bonkers than I previously thought and looks as tho she will not be moved on this one.
You must now either play dirty or put up with it.
Christ I feel so sorry for you but I so want you to be happy and not have the day ruined by a rat bag of a sister in law!!!
Options...
1) try you best to pick up some germs from somewhere to make her ill before the wedding, I'm thinking a used tissue/ really rank dishcloth. If she gets poorly hopefully she won't come.
2) similar to the above, give her a dose of food poisoning. Extreme I know but this now calls for extreme measures!!
3) speak to her husband on his own, tell him your woes and appeal to him to address the situation.
4) last option, as someone else said, speak to her parents and tell them exactly how THE TWO OF YOU are feeling. Hopefully as I'm imagining they might be a little older they won't be quite so "liberated" as the "whip-it-out-mammary-mammy" and will take your view and either talk some sense into her or - in no uncertain terms - lay "the law" down i.e. some common sense.
She presumably wouldn't want to go upsetting all 4 of you just to prove a point?
You must now either play dirty or put up with it.
Christ I feel so sorry for you but I so want you to be happy and not have the day ruined by a rat bag of a sister in law!!!
Options...
1) try you best to pick up some germs from somewhere to make her ill before the wedding, I'm thinking a used tissue/ really rank dishcloth. If she gets poorly hopefully she won't come.
2) similar to the above, give her a dose of food poisoning. Extreme I know but this now calls for extreme measures!!
3) speak to her husband on his own, tell him your woes and appeal to him to address the situation.
4) last option, as someone else said, speak to her parents and tell them exactly how THE TWO OF YOU are feeling. Hopefully as I'm imagining they might be a little older they won't be quite so "liberated" as the "whip-it-out-mammary-mammy" and will take your view and either talk some sense into her or - in no uncertain terms - lay "the law" down i.e. some common sense.
She presumably wouldn't want to go upsetting all 4 of you just to prove a point?
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For goodness sake. Drop her as a brides maid. It is your wedding and your money being spent. If she goes off on one that she is being left out because of breastfeeding tell her tuff. My neice is getting married later in the year and not even grandparents are invited to the ceremony.
Alternativly she can be bridesmaid but sits on another table. The top table has bride and groom and parents and the bridesmaids and pages ect are ALL on another table.
Alternativly she can be bridesmaid but sits on another table. The top table has bride and groom and parents and the bridesmaids and pages ect are ALL on another table.
Bl00dy good answer cassa333. And if you take cassa333's second suggestion, then be sure to do place names and put her NEAR A DRAUGHT or NEAR THE TABLE WITH ALL THE SMALL CHILDREN!!!!
Let's face it, she can't be such an 4rse and get away with it!!!
Balfron, DON'T be DICTATED to by a self centred, selfish and attention seeking sister in law! If you allow her to get away with it this once she will only get worse. I speak from experience with these kinds of things. You have been warned. Oh and Congratulations and good luck for the big day! I mean that, have a wonderful day. ; ) x
Let's face it, she can't be such an 4rse and get away with it!!!
Balfron, DON'T be DICTATED to by a self centred, selfish and attention seeking sister in law! If you allow her to get away with it this once she will only get worse. I speak from experience with these kinds of things. You have been warned. Oh and Congratulations and good luck for the big day! I mean that, have a wonderful day. ; ) x
I've been to a few weddings where others have attempted to steal the limelight from the bride. A drunk best man exposing himself during his speech probably topped the lot - that wedding is recalled as "the one where the best man got his knob out". Ask your future sister-in-law if she wants YOUR wedding to be referred to as "the one where the bridesmaid got her tits out". If she does, as others have suggested, simply relegate her to another table. It's your day, not hers.
Personally I'd dismiss her as bridesmaid for the simple fact that she's not doing her bridesmaids duty. Her duty as a bridesmaid is to keep the bride happy.
I understand breast feeding women standing their ground against the 'call me old fashioned' brigade but we all have to make exceptions in life. Considering there is just a small chance that the baby will need feeding in those 30 mins I really cannot see why she will not compromise.
Like someone else pointed out, what will happen if baby wants feeding during the photos? Will the wedding party have to sit round and wait potentially messing up the timetable for dinner and speeches?
I understand breast feeding women standing their ground against the 'call me old fashioned' brigade but we all have to make exceptions in life. Considering there is just a small chance that the baby will need feeding in those 30 mins I really cannot see why she will not compromise.
Like someone else pointed out, what will happen if baby wants feeding during the photos? Will the wedding party have to sit round and wait potentially messing up the timetable for dinner and speeches?
I'd reiterate what others have said, I'd drop he as a bridesmaid as the occasion is clearly too much for her. As for the legal bit, I think that's a stretch, you'll only be asking to move to another table not make her leave the premises, she'll still be in the same room.
Actually, I wouldn't have the selfish mare at the wedding at all.
Actually, I wouldn't have the selfish mare at the wedding at all.
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