Dad And Wife Cant Agree A Financial Settlement

[numnum]

My Dad and his wife seperated 3 years ago. Her demands were crazy and its understandable why my Dad wasn't agreeing.

They have had no contact for over 6 months now and I cant see it ever coming to an end. What can he do? I cant see either of them going to court as the costs are more than there arguing over.

What is annoying they have an apartment abroad which they rented out, once they split she still rented it out, cleared out the bank account of about £13,000 she is still rentin git out and my Dad isn't seeing any of the money. She also took the car so he has no way transport. Could she now get in trouble for doing all of the above?

He cant move on as she has a block on him selling his house so he is sitting in his house not doing anything about the divorce or anything.

[SeaJayPea]

Your dad urgently needs to talk to a solicitor. It does sound as though she's behaved very badly. He needs advice from a professional.

Good luck to him.

[numnum]

I cant get my dad to go and I stay to far away to nip along. If I had the money to travel to see him I'd be dragging him to a solicitor.

He's been sitting in his house for 3 years, no tv, not sleeping, doesn't know what day or year he's on.

I think with the divorce they were both at fault and the reasons for this would have nothing to do with the financial settlement as far as I know. Its English law

But now what she has done and continued to do would make her look bad in the settlement.

He's not being horrible about the settlement. She's getting her share of the money that she put into the house etc. Its just she's being greedy and wanting more

She has had a job for the past year or so, so has been earning. My dad is in no state to work. He's having panic attacks constantly and with him not sleeping he's just not with it. The last time he got agency work driving and he crashed and artic. Thats how bad he is.

Could he turn the tables and ask her for a financial settlement since she now earns more?

[numnum]

Also, can they get a divoce even though they haven't sorted out the financial settlement?

[FredPuli43]

Can't do anything without involving a solicitor and threat of court action.

[tonywiltshire]

Agree with SJP & Fred, far better if they are able to agree a settlement than having one imposed upon them by the court that will try to understand their needs but may fail.
The problem can be that bitterness creeps in with either, or both, sides who may want to get back at the other side more than they wish to settle, I do hope this does not become the position.

[SeaJayPea]

I sympathise with you. It's difficult to help somebody who won't help themselves.

But he really needs to take advice. Does he have a solicitor, do you know? If not, why not do a bit of research and at least find him one locally who handles this sort of thing.

And it might not be a bad idea to get his health checked out as well.

[numnum]

Yes, agreed it is really difficult. Its like speaking to a brick wall. Its not going to go away it has to be sorted and he's not listening to our advice.

He did go to many solicitors at the beginning to get advice. The all said the same really that its best to avoid court and to try and come to some sort of agreement between them. Which is harder than it sounds as she wont talk to him so nothing is happening and no one is going to a solicitor

I even said he needs to get some sort of letter put to her solicitor because she'll not be telling them she's cleared bank accounts, took the car, earning from joint assets etc. So if my Dad just got one letter to her solicitor stating all of the things she's doing I'm sure the advice she'll be getting will soon change.

He keeps going on about the cost of a letter but I think if she sees legal letters coming to her door then she might take it serious. If I had the money I'd be doing it all for him. Im just not in the position to do anything.

My younger brother lives in Australia and is coming home for a holiday in a few months so I'm hoping he might be able to trave down and see my dad and how he's living and try and take him to a solicitor.

I dont even know if my Dad will have his wifes address.