I couldn’t make my mind up if this question was genuine or not last night so I have given myself 24 hours to think about it and have decided that genuine or not as a 16 year old you deserve an honest answer, my sincerest apologies if any of my answer upsets you.
At 16 you are still classed as a minor and with the circumstances you mentioned the authorities will be strict about not letting you see your natural parents until you are 18.
Think long and hard about your decision to find them, you are young and vulnerable, ask yourself do you really want to associate with people like that? Take into account that your natural parents may not want to have contact with you, they may be in prison or they may have passed away. If at 18 you do decide to try and locate them do any searching through official social service channels that way you get help and support, but don’t get your hopes up, it’s not that easy for adoptees to find and meet their natural parents. Even if your natural parents do agree to see you it won’t be instantaneous you’re likely to have to go through interviews and counselling before you meet them.
Don’t think you are alone in feeling like you do, the majority of adopted children, at some point in their lives, have gone through a similar stage, the majority of us are curious and have questions at some point, some follow it through others don’t.
Your Mum may have some information but it may not be as much as you think and she will have good reasons for not telling you just yet, trust her, she will tell you when she thinks you will be able to handle what she has to say.
My advice is to wait until you are 18, that’s less than 2 years, it’ll go fast, but please go into it with your eyes wide open and be prepared for what you might find.
Don’t dismiss the help lines they will treat whatever you say in the strictest confidence. If contacting them by phone is not an option what about email? Try Adoption UK they have been giving out advice for 40 years and they have a link on their website that leads to a contact email form. Their address is -
http://www.adoptionuk.org/form/103129/b_conhelpline/