I've Been Abused Harrased Beaten What Will Happen If I Report Him

[Lilly8]

I'm married to a evil insane man I've been beaten several times I've been harrased put a knife to me few times and accused off not being a good wife not behaving the way he wanted me too I tried doing everything he wanted the way he was happy but he switched I tried to understand him and then went through his mobile I needed to know why was it I'm being hurt I found out his having an affair with several woman and when he didn't get what he wanted I was his punch bag at home I wanted my marriage to work so badly that every time he abused me mentally verbally physically I kept saying he will change but it just got bad he started hurting me daily at one time he told me to make tea and I did he got a phone call i asked who is it he lashed out put tea in the sink chucked chappaty in the bin slapped me told me to behave and don't ask again I said don't touch me again he just nurses out grabbed my scarf put me to the ground with his knee in my belly and punched me I just went numb to what just happened he got off me told me I was responsable for his behaviour and should get out I did as he said as I feared him that day the most he then begged me to come back to him and i love my husband and went back with In a week he was meeting someone local post office woman and her daughter her daughter 29 was in my bedroom with my husband he said she's been doing some paper work for him I said this has to stop so he hit me and shamed me infront off the mother and daughter next thing I know his going to there home cause she had a brake in when I went to see there's no brake In all false story he got angry told me I'm a prostitute in public kept shouting it out public humiliation and told me if I was to misbehave he would knife me I'm afraid off telling anyone and I keep all my Windows doors locked I feel as if he us going to do something severe to me cause off these mother and daughter what is the law to stop all this the mother tells my young son your mother needs help needs her mind sorted out she's a good woman but needs to be good wife be patient can anyone guide me to what charges can I press and if there is a chance off getting these people as to pay to pay for what they put me my kids through the mother and daughter run a local post office and I'm always afraid for what might happen to me there very clever woman and his a divious man with a ugly charechter

[bednobs]

if you report him it will get investigated by the police

[Buenchico]

What would happen to your husband would depend upon what the Crown Prosecution Service charged him with (and, of course, whether or not he was then convicted of some/all of those offences). The CPS will be aware that many offenders will simply say "It's all lies", forcing the CPS to produce evidence in court to support their prosecution of the case.

So you need to ask yourself what evidence (such as witness statements or medical reports) could be made available to a court. Even if you can't think of much that could help in that respect you still shouldn't be deterred from reporting the matter to the police.

It's likely that, while the case is waiting to get to court, your husband would be given an interim order prohibiting him from contacting you (effectively forcing him to find somewhere else to live). Even if he managed to avoid being found guilty of any criminal charges (because the court couldn't find enough evidence to prove the case 'beyond all reasonable doubt') your statements alone would probably be sufficient to get a permanent civil order against him, barring him from ever contacting you again.

In the first instance though it might be best to talk to someone on the Refuge helpline:
https://www.refuge.org.uk/get-help-now/

[New Judge]

I can't help too much as the lack of punctuation in your post makes it almost impossible to follow. However, one issue I could pick out:

"...can anyone guide me to what charges can I press..."

You cannot press any charges. That is the job of the CPS and to get them involved you must report these matters to the police. One other piece of advice is that once you start the ball rolling with them you will find it very difficult to stop it. The CPS have a policy of pursuing domestic violence issues with or without the victim's co-operation. If you make these allegations to the police you cannot decide a day or two later to withdraw them.

Another bit I did pick out from your post:

"...then begged me to come back to him and i love my husband and went back..."

You should be aware (or you may have already found out) that perpetrators of domestic violence do not "get better". They only get worse. Go to the police, tell them what has happened to you. The police may be in a position to apply for a "Domestic Violence Protection Order" (depending on what you tell them). This is a court order which will keep him away from you. If they don't then immediately find yourself somewhere safe to move to (the police may be able to help with this in the short term) and do not return to him or let him anywhere near you. It will be difficult for you but you must do it.

[Celtigra3]

This man has abused you mentally and physically. You have also been brainwashed by him. My daughter works for Women's Aid counselling children as they are affected too. I suggest you go to Women's Aid as they can give you refuge with your children and also get you legal help. If you cannot find them locally, try your library or ring the Samaritans as they should have contact details. You need to take steps now as this is affecting your children.

[Old_Geezer]

IMO you need to get away as first priority.
A refuge should have folk who know how to take it forward from there.

[Barmaid]

If you consider you are in immediate danger you must leave and dial 999.

Other than that call Women's Aid. 0808 2000 247 is their number.

[anneasquith]

You have been very brave and articulate ( easy to understand), in sharing your experience. Please take barmaid advice. If not today, keep the details at hand. Good luck .

[Barmaid]

https://www.womensaid.org.uk

[Jordyboy9]

Sorry to hear this Cani ask are you Indian or pakistani?if you are there must be some place you can go for help

[Barmaid]

Yes Jordy. Women's Aid.

[Barmaid]

Please can i ask that this quite serious thread is not diverted.

[Lilly8]

Thank you everyone I've been reading everyone's answering I'm glad I found this sight on Google so many people to guide and especially when person like me who thought I could make him be better with me caring all your answers are approached an I can not point out one that is the best as the answrs are very much appreciated thank you I am reporting him I was not wrong he was I am and was a good wife thank you all his bless you

[anneasquith]

Lilly very best wishes for the future, you are a very brave woman .