Fencing

[midagetrolop]

My mum who is 95 has moved into a care home and I am selling her house. Her neighbour has said he is putting up a fence where the original fence is that my father put up some years ago. I have said I do not think that is right and he should put it on his side of the boundary. Because we will be selling the house I do not want to get into legal wrangles about the fence and so I have told him he should put it on his side of the boundary. I am right and can anyone advise- he will not discuss it say I am being ridiculous. Please help.

[midagetrolop]

He will not discuss it, he got very defensive when I asked him what he was asking mum about. He went to the nursing home and told her he was putting up a fence for his privacy now she has gone. It seemed to be fait accompli, not asking if he could use the same fence posts just doing it . He said she was going to pay for it - she says she said no such thing - she maybe 95 but she's not daft she has all her marbles.Mum has left everything upto me and my husband but I always discuss things with her. Her hung up on me I was not rude, and he got quite personal.

[TonyV]

Bednobs I've given up trying to give advice on this thread.

[Maydup]

If the neighbour is offering to replace the fence that your father put up years ago, why make a dispute of it? It was good enough in that position for all those years, so accept the generous offer and accept that a new fence might even increase the look and value of the property.

[midagetrolop]

He never asked it was a fait accompli. Anyway it's sorted out now i have spoke to him this evening and we are back to the status quo!

[midagetrolop]

Bed nobs it is not a boundary dispute fullstop!!!

[TonyV]

Glad you got it all sorted amicably.

[Peter Pedant]

I think your fence thing is
the posts have width and the fence was nailed on his side and he wants to replace the fence and nail it on your mims side thus snaffling a strip of three inches or whatever the width of the fence is

tell him the fence is his and he has to maintain it

and DO NOT get into a dispute -
you have to say in preliminary doo-dahs whether you are in a dispute or not and this will dampen anyones enthusiasm to buy

so the money YOU get goes down
walk away from this with more money by not speaking

[Peter Pedant]

good the fence dispute now isnt

get on and sell ....