Naming And Shaming On Facebook?

[gordiescotland1]

Over the last few years I have been subject to abuse by people from passing cars. Homophobic verbal abuse. It has stopped for over a year. I suspect the main perpetrator died. However another person in a car did it sporadically over the same time who I believe was a relative of the original one. This afternoon I was out for a walk and the occasional one in a different van shouted out the window "f*** fat poof". I managed to get his reg number. The place I live is quite small 50000 and I am really annoyed. Would it be illegal to post his reg number on local Facebook groups to see if perhaps someone knows him and tells him to stop being an idiot ?

[Bobbisox1]

No, don’t do that Gordie, you’d be contravening their rules, homophobia is against the law so maybe popping into your local police station and telling them , show the car number to them, I hope someone can offer you something to do, sorry for your pain

[douglas9401]

Why not just get a sign made up for your back that says 'kick me'?

Leave it alone, your life seems complicated enough without drawing battle lines.

[Zacs-Master]

Homophobia isn't against the law, per se. The CPS uses definitions for Hate Crime to identify incidents/crimes which involve an element of hostility on the grounds of sexual orientation or being transgender.

[gordiescotland1]

It's very difficult to ignore I was having a perfectly happy day until this happened. Now it has ruined my day. Ok partly my choice

[Zacs-Master]

I'd have my phone at the ready and film any future incidents and then take it to the police v

[andy-hughes]

Shaming on Facebook is not the way to deal with this.

As well as a potential libel action, you are simply inviting your tormentor to escalate his behavior.

As advised, get some video evidence and speak to the police.

[andy-hughes]

BTW, I don't think being abused is your 'choice' for one moment, partly or otherwise.

[ToraToraTora]

Am I missing something here? Are you wearing any sort of indication to your sexuality?

[naomi24]

His purpose is to upset you so don’t give him what he wants. If you’re a poof and fat, laugh and agree with him. He has nowhere to go from there.

[naomi24]

I’m guessing these people know gordie in real life, TTT. Could be wrong but that’s the impression I get.

[THECORBYLOON]

TORATORATORA, if the person involved to-day recognised GORDIE or his car, that is likely the reason for the unjustified abuse.

[david small]

Ignore the gibbering of an immature foolish oaf. Brake fluid accidentally finds his cars paintwork. Punch his light out. Have an adult conversation with him, pointing out his childish behaviour demeans his own character. Inform the police that you are offended. Your choice.....

[Ellipsis]

> Ok partly my choice

Totally your choice. I know it is difficult, but words only hurt if you choose to let them hurt. The words that hurt the most come from people you love or hold in very high regard. The prat in the van falls into neither of those categories. His words mean nothing.

If I heard him shouting that at you, it would tell me nothing about you and everything about him. So just get on with enjoying life ...

[Peter Pedant]

// Homophobia isn't against the law, per se.//
oh god this isnt one of the AB - murder isnt against the law, unless you kill someone, is it?

Ignore - sticks and stones

Is it against the law to put on facebook - the driver (*)of PEN15 called me a fat pouf
no I am not sure it IS against the law ( since you ask)

but I wd ignore it....honestly. Do I advise you to do it - no I do not

(*) this was the hired number of a rolls royce when Linda Lovelace came to London to puff her film, Deep Throat - er 1975

[Peter Pedant]

ellipsis v good answer

[andy-hughes]

Ellipsis - // I know it is difficult, but words only hurt if you choose to let them hurt. //

An admirable sentiment, but sadly impractical.

'Choosing' whether something hurts us is never a choice, if it was, no-one would ever be hurt ever again.

Our minds are simply not wired that way.

In his rational mind. Gordie knows full well that an idiot should not have the power to upset him.

That's because his rational mind is under his control.

But his emotional mind is not under his control, and that is where the hurt comes from, and there is nothing he can do about, including 'choosing' not to be hurt.

That's like standing in the rain and 'choosing' not to be wet - it's not something you control.

So, as I say, nice idea, it's a shame it doesn't work, for anyone.

[Canary42]

Name him on Facebook and his street cred will soar, and such behaviour from him is likely to increase. YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED.

Are the Scottish police as institutionally homophobic as the Met are alleged to be ?

[Ellipsis]

Thanks for your opinion, andy.

^^^ See, that's how it's done, gordie ... ^^^

[andres]

Just give him a wave if he does it again and walk casually on your way. The best way is to ignore him.

[Maydup]

No don't name and shame on Facebook as it will simply raise his kudos, but more importantly it will identify you and leave you very vulnerable.

I'm sorry this is happening to you gordie, but I think you should either do as others have suggested and take some video evidence to the police, or wave back and blow kisses.