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I honestly believe his new stepmother really resents him being there, and his father doesn't do nearly enough to support him by going against what she says. She has two teenage children of her own and was widowed rather than divorced.
The more I hear, the more I fear for this boy. I don't think they would abuse him physically (fingers crossed hope not), but the psychological torment he must be going through is hard to contemplate. He is quite vulnerable anyway, it was believed he had a learning disability, but I think it is more that he doesn't achieve academically but has incredible skills in other areas. Skills that frankly need nurturing. He has been diagnosed with ADD which doesn't help with his behaviour sometimes.
I have since discovered that he will be 16 in march next year, I had thought he was only just 15. So at that stage, he will at least be able to vote with his feet more. His plans, he has disclosed to the husband of his aunt (her second husband), are to leave when he is 16 and would like to live with them. They have had issues in the past with one of their sons, and social services have been involved in the past. He is now an adult, so that has lapsed. My understanding is that once you are 16 you can leave home, and cannot be forced back, unless it can be shown you are unsafe.
At that rate, the court route may well take longer than waiting until he's 16. To be honest, if he was my grandson I would be round at his father's house knocking on the door and refusing to move until we had discussed the situation. Sadly that is not going to happen as the relationship between the father and the grandparents is so bad, they don't communicate at all.
I feel very sorry for them all, two of my grandchildren are in the thick of all this, as their mother is the sister of the deceased mother. Luckily for them they are at university and going back in a couple of weeks, so can at least separate themselves from it a bit. As friends also of the couple whose daughter died, you can't help but want to do all you can to assist them with these difficulties. Fingers crossed they can keep contact with him somehow until he turns 16 and can make some of his own decisions.