help...online bloke...what shall I do now ??

[maximo]

Hiya all, I'm in need of a bit of the legendary AB wisdom here ! There goes...I've been "talking" to this guy through a messages option on an online forum ( namely, faceparty, for those who know it ) for about 3 months now. We get on REALLY well online, and he makes me laugh a lot. Now yesterday, he gave me his mobile number ( at last ! ) and we texted throughout the evening and ever since his "good morning" text today. As I was finishing work, he asked if I wanted to go for a drink tonight. I panicked ( i mean, proper butterflies in my tummy there ), and told him I was broke, and besides, I was ******** myself at the thought.... I suggested this week end instead. And now, that's the thing : not a word since. He hasn't texted back at all. I tried again, asking if he was giving me the cold shoulder, and that I was now sitting in the pub anyway. Not a peep.
Now, guys, what does this mean ?!?!? I really can't believe he would ditch me because i said no to his offer for tonight ! He's not the type...Did he get upset because I said no when he'd finally ( sort of ) plucked up the courage to ask me out ?? Or did he just drop his phone in the toilet , that's why he's not replying, and I shouldn't make an issue of it ? lol
So now what ???? Do I keep texting, do I call him ( never even heard his voice ! ), or do I wait and see ? It's the first time I've been close to meeting someone online, and I REALLy like this guy. Help please !!! Sorry for the long post...Max. XXX

[B00]

Aww bless your little cotton socks Max.

It could be something simple like he's run out of credit? I personally wouldn't text again, but I would message him via faceparty and say same thing as you did in your text message.

Good luck babes

xxxxx

[dot.hawkes]

you havn't actually spoken to this person? What evidence do you have it is a bloke, available, normal? I know it is easy to get to know people thru msn and textin, but until you have had a really good chat with them you can never be 100% sure. if they want to contact you they will, but get to speak to them first.

[Will666]

Don't text back, he might think you're stalking him (but i am useles with women).

[Rubyrose]

There could be such a simple explaination as to why he hasn't text back. You can analyse this all you like and we can give you all the answers under the cyber sun.. but the truth is.. you wont know until he tells you. I'd message him one last time on Faceparty and leave it at that. You want him to know you are still interested but you don't want him to think you are obsessed! But also... Dot is right.. you don't know who he is so if you do meet him (and I think you should) be careful. Let a friend know where you are and meet him somewhere crowded. And make sure when you leave him at the end of the date that he doesn't follow you to your car or anything like that. Other than that.. have fun.

[maximo]

Woohoo !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you peeps, all is well now ! lol He just texted saying he was in the pub and ran out of credit !!! Now we're planning for the week end ! :-)

Sorry for the panicky thread....jee, I didn't think I was THAT keen ! lol

And don't worry, I'll be careful. Wish me luck ! xxx

[redcrx]

I met my bloke through faceparty and we have a son now. 2 of my best mates are also in serious relationshsips through FP, one wedding.

But there are often some weirdos i have to say I was messaged by 5 fake firemen before i finally met my partner and found out he was a fireman lol

3 months is a long time to have been messaging tho. Maybe hes a shy one and to ask you out at short notice was because he didnt want time to panic.

Id say message him on faceparty and see what he says. It took 4 months before my partner and i met face to face and 2 months later we were expecting and overjoyed. i love him to bits.

If you do meet this bloke then make sure people know where you are. get a landline number for him too and check it out. Get as much solid imformation about him as you can before meeting and meet in a public place. take your own car so that you are not relying on public transport or a lift.

Also a tip that i used was to get a friend to text you an hour into your meet and ask a question only you know the answer too. My friend texted 'what motorbike do i own?' and all i could answer was 'a blue one' but he knew it was me and that i was safe. After that he always texted and asked 'colour?' each time i went out with one of the many frogs i met.

Best of luck, hope faceparty works as well for you as it did for me.

[maximo]

Thanks, Red ! I don't know where it's going , but I really like him even though I haven't met him...weird, I know ! I just love his sense of humour, and unlike a lot of guys on FP, he has never been creepy. I really don't believe he would have lied for so long ! lol But I will be careful. Thank you all for your answers !

[B00]

<adopts smug mode>

didn't i say he might have run out of credit?

Yay to me!!! :-)

[redcrx]

Maximo, thats exactly how i felt about my bloke. Its almost 2 years since we met and i still go all tingly thinking about when we finally did meet. He was wearing his bike leathers which always does it for me, but he is lovely, kind and caring. Oh and a great daddy.

Ooooh Im excited for you. Cant wait to hear how it went.

Just make sure youre safe. He'll understand if hes the nice bloke you think he is so dont worry about making sure everyone knows where you are.

[maximo]

lol Boo ! Well done ! Thank god you were right ( for once...lol ).
Red: I'm really really excited about it....I've got a good feeling about him ! Thing is, I haven't "dated" anyone in ages ! I'm not sure how to behave....lol Plus, I'm really scared that it will spoil everything if we meet ! I'm not the most confident person, I must admit...:-) I'll let you know how it goes..
BTW : he's gone quiet again now...aaaaaaaaarghhhhhh ! Men, can't live with them, can't bury them under the patio either, hey ! ( sorry Boo, I stole that one from ya ! ). xxx

[madham]

There is only 1 reason a man doesn't text and that's because he doesn't want to, DON'T text him again. If he wants you he has your number, good luck and try forget about it for now. You will probably wake up in the morning to a message, he is possibly massaging his ego for now after you turned him down.

[bobtheturkey]

how do you know he is a bloke?

[Slooow_Jo]

Oh Max :)

Be good,be careful, be safe, & mostly be yourself :D

Best wishes Jo xx

[whiskeysheri]

Go for it, max! (Just be careful and take care) Who knows, he might be your soul mate? xxxx

[Slooow_Jo]

Hey Bob, how do WE know your a turkey??

[spk]

Ooh Maximo its exciting ! Enjoy it go with the flow and enjoy the butterflys. Nobody knows what is round the corner ! Good luck stay safe let us know what happens !! x

[zombie1000]

Having used faceparty myself, I can give you a educated answer. I met a girl I really liked after months of emailing and she was a complete weirdo. Completely different to the person I chatted with. If you have made excuses not to meet, a decent guy will understand and keep in touch until you are ready. Well thats what I do anyway. The fact he has taken the huff and stopped texting means he is an ar****le. Have a chat with someone else and move on

[maximo]

That's ok Zombie, maybe you missed my post above ! He did text again about half an hour later, he had ran out of credit whilst in the pub. We've been texting a lot again, and are meeting tomorrow night ! :-)

Oh god, Im soooooooo nervous !!!

[whiskeysheri]

Will you let us know how you get on, Max? xxx

[maximo]

Well ! I've done it ! lol

Thought I'd give you an update , although mot sure if any of ya are going to see this...

We went out last night, and although a bit stressful at first, it turned out great ! We went to a couple of pubs, and got on very well ( plus, he's VERY cute, which helped a lot ! lol ), then we took a taxi around midnight,and he dropped me home....No kiss though, just a quick peck on the cheek as I was getting out of the taxi, and there was no time to say goodbye "properly" lol ...:-(

He texted me later, and said we should do it again sometimes...I asked when he was free next, and he said he had a busy week end but next week is fine. I was sort of hoping I would see him again this week end though...:-( Do you guys think it looks good, or does the fact he said he was busy this week-end mean he doesn't really wanna see me again and was putting me down gently ???

I'm sooooooo excited now, but I don't know what to think...and to top it all, my mobile went dead this morning, which means I won't be able to see if he's sent me a text before tonight ! AAAAAAARGHHHHHHHH