parental responsibility agreement

[peter1968]

help i had a letter this morning from my ex wife's solicitors she has remarried and she wants me to agree to give her new husband parental responsibility if i do so will i lose my parental responsibility for my children? she was threating me with changing the childrens names to her new married name could this be a reason for asking for this parental responsibility agreement ?
many thanks
peter

[unruliejulie]

As far as i know, surnames of children cannot be changed without their fathers permission so that is an empty threat really. You would have to agree to it.
Would you be willing to pass over your parental rights??? How much of a part do you play in their lives?

[peter1968]

hi julie she gives me no access what so ever i send them birthday cards and christmas presents but thats about it

[peter1968]

if my ex wife died and the new husband had parental rights how would that affect me with regards him taking them away like abroad for instants

[unruliejulie]

http://www.direct.gov.uk/Parents/FamilyIssuesA ndTheLaw/ParentsRights/ParentsRightsArticles/f s/en?CONTENT_ID=4002954&chk=JgXq/k
Have a read of this Peter, i've not read it all myself but hopefully it should give you a bit of an insight.

[mimififi]

if you have legal parental responisibility, you will not lose it if someone else is also granted it. Multiple people can have parental responsibility.

Your wife does have the right to change you children's names by deed poll, but I believe she requires your consent also.

for the sake of an amicable agreement, perhaps the children could have their surname double barelled, i.e, their old and new name. This would help their sense of belonging and not turn into a feud between you and her. It is particularly important if she intends having subsequent children with her new partner who will then be their siblings as it helps to bond them together.

These relationships are never easy, but one thing your kids don't need is to feel as though their are sides to take.

If your wife died, you would be able to apply for a residency order. (not guarenteed that you will get it though.)

It is your job to ensure she gives you access. You need to see a solicitor and have it set in law when you are to see your children. If you do not do this and thus cannot take her back to court if she refuses, then the court could see you in a poor light for not being proactive. The courts will decide whether or not there is a reason why she is denying access and whether or not it is justifiable.

[PinkFizz]

why does she give you no access whatsoever??

[Catso]

Personally, no way would I give up parental responsibility. They are your children, just as much as hers.

Are they old enough to have their own opinion about their name?

[Schlomo78]

My god-daughter has just had her last name changed and her father had to sign a form to say he agreed to it so she def cannot do that without your consent. Also I think if he wants to adopt your children then you have to give your consent.