my boyfriend

[brisolgue00]

ok my boyfriend has 2 kids hes beeb separated for about 2 months and he pays child support. but the ex dont let him see the kids at all. what can he do about it?

[scruffscat]

were they ever married,?If they were then legally unless he has abused her or the kids ,i dont think she can stop him.Either way i think he should see a good solicitor.

[brisolgue00]

yes they are still merried.
just this weekend he went to give her the child support money, and she just did not wanted to get the kids to him at all. she took the money. thank you for ur help

[brisolgue00]

what can he do if his pickend them up but she's at her house door just holding the kids back so h ewont take them. oh by th eway th ekids are criyng cause they see their dad and want to go with him. but she wont not let him. she does that just cause he wants to see my boyfriend sad. and wants to hurt him.

[sunnyday2d]

im in this situation and believe me the only route is a slow court case mines been going on for twelve months now and havent been alowed to see my girls once.

[FlowerPetal]

We really live in a VERY unfair world dont we?
My situation was similar but reversed. We didnt want my son seeing his mother who blatantly told us that she really didnt want to see him, but was doing it to wind us all up!! - denied saying it in court though!
BRISOLGUE, get your b/friend to seek legal advice as soon as possible. If his children are becoming distressed by being held back, then the court can instruct a CAFCASS officer to become involved and get to the heart of the problems.
It might even be just the scare his ex needs to stop being silly and allow contact.
Does he pay maintence through an aggreement with the court or CSA or off his own back. If its the latter, suggest he sorts it out via CSA - he may have to pay more or less, but the courts look on this in his favour. Also, keep a record of payments made and for how much and how paid.
Keep a diary of whenever he sees his ex and how the meeting / conversation / children behaved went. this will help with your solicitor.
above all, good luck
Flower xx

[Hapus]

My brother in law went through this several years ago - he eventually won a court order to see his son, and even then, his ex used to be "out" or work up his son so he was hysterical at the time of pick up. My brother-in-law eventually asked his ex if she would prefer it if he arrived at visits with a police officer to ensure she upheld the law - and did - several more court cases eventually led to her behaving (I think she was threatened with contempt of court). Now years later things are a lot better, but it was a terrible time that he and my sister struggled through, at times wondering how they would manage the next week's visit time. Tell him to get in touch with a solicitor, and to persevere - no matter how dire things look. And good luck. I must say, my sister also has built some bridges there with his ex, and this might be another way forward - do not get involved in any slanging matches - no matter how tempting it may be - it will pay off.